What are the fundamentals to raise children? Read books, no spanking, teach patience, teach honestly, teach communication, and explain the who, what, where, why, and how of life. What are the fundamentals for adult children? There are none. Children are adults and must make their own choices. Good adults come from good families :)
I repeat. There are no fundamentals to raise adult children because the children are adults. The no fundamentals include no matchmaking. Parents being matchmakers are unnecessary. Mom and Dads must avoid finding someone special for their children. If the parents become matchmakers, the parents are telling their children they have no ability to find a date or find a boyfriend or girlfriend. The grown up children choose how to live their life including their marital status. The parents can encourage their adult children to find someone special if the adult children are making no effort or can support their adult children to never give up finding their long-term companion after many failures. It depends on the situation. Avoid finding singles with a name and a face only, and introducing the lack of information single person to their adult children.
Give the adult children plenty of time to find a husband or wife. There is trial and error. There is gaining experience, making mistakes, and learning from the mistakes. Parents taught their children patience after all. Some adult children want to remain single because they are still finding who they are and who they are looking for in a spouse. Some young adult children want to remain single because they want to spend their young years being single and free and have goals to accomplish. Any reason the adult children want to remain single, it’s their choice. Parents, stay out of the adult children’s choice of lifestyle.
What if the children are ready to date, ready to go out and tell everyone I’m available? What are the rules to meet people, flirt, and date? I can answer the question. What are the rules? The rules are there are no rules. However, the no rules rules are no excuse for poor personal grooming, hygiene, and personality. For example, gentlemen, ladies avoid men who smell bad and fake their personalities. Ladies have the sense to spot phoniness. Ladies, gentlemen avoid women wearing inappropriate clothing and communicate poorly. Gentlemen must understand the communication straightforward without any doubt to avoid misunderstandings. Good luck!
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