Friday, April 14, 2017

Top Ten Movies I Can Watch Again And Again

One positive watching movies is selected movies each person can watch again and again. These movies we watch infinitely connect with us. We calm down. We laugh. We reflect. We learn. We discover. There is something in the movie we relate in real life. Been there, done that. We are always 100% satisfied watching the movie from beginning to end or watching selected scenes.

Grease (1978) is one movie I can watch again and again. The movie cheers me up when I'm depressed. I like the music. I pictured myself attending high school in the late 1950s during one movie watch. If I have children, then I'm comfortable they can watch Grease with no worries. I consider Grease a family movie.

Here are the top ten movies I can watch again and again:

10. The Dark Knight (2008). The movie was all Heath Ledger. If I name my favorite evil character, Heath Ledger's Joker comes to my mind first.

9. For Your Eyes Only (1981). My personal all-time favorite Bond movie. It was the first Bond movie I watched. Humor, action, gadgets, car chase, and a great opening Bond scene.

8. Hot Fuzz (2007). I remember watching the first 15 minutes at a friend's house. We all laughed our asses. I exited the house because there was another commitment. I watched the movie for the second time from start to finish at the end of the year. I like movies which go full circle.

7. Beverly Hills Cop (1984). Eddie Murphy's breakout movie. No green screen special effects for the action and comedy movie classic.

6. Wall Street (1987). The movie about Bud Fox who wanted to be Gordon Gekko realized he was just Bud Fox. Most of the movie regarding business is true today.

5. E.T. The Extra Terrestrial (1982). I wish I was more like Elliott when I was a child. He had more courage and more attractiveness towards girls. E.T. was the first movie I watched in an outdoor movie theater decades later.

4. Star Wars IV (1977). I was a child who smiled at every battle scene and every special effect. I didn't understand the plot. My favorite scene is Obi-Wan gave Luke his first lesson in The Force inside the Millennium Falcon.

3. Stand By Me (1986). Four boys took a journey to find the body of a missing boy before they begin junior high school. It was my first coming-of-age movie. I include Breaking Away (1979) in number #3 because it's another good coming-of-age movie.

2. Saving Private Ryan (1998). My personal all-time favorite war movie. The movie should have won best picture instead of Shakespeare In Love.

Honorable mentions: Aliens, Clerks, The Princess Bride, and Toy Story.

1. Good Will Hunting (1997). I watched the movie for the first time in 2014. It's another movie I watch when I feel depressed. I tell myself I'm a good Raymond Mar sincerely. My all time favorite ending and end credits. I like the tagline: Some people can never believe in themselves, until someone believes in them.


Thursday, April 13, 2017

Questions Answer Quickly Answer Briefly

Here is a list of questions below. Answer quickly. Answer briefly. Questions first. My answers second.

1. You're stranded on an island. What book do you want with you?
2. What is the one meal you eat for the rest of your life?
3. What is your life mulligan? Choose one.
4. If you started college again, then what is your major? Choose a different major. Or if you dropped out of college or never attended college, then what is your major?
5. Trade a hobby for another hobby.
6. Somebody gives you $1,000,000 to choose another place to live. Where? Present location excluded.
7. What is the one TV show you want to watch all episodes?
8. Dream car?
9. What year do you want to be born? Why?
10. What knowledge do you want to learn more?
11. Another career path?
12. Choose one sport to follow religiously.
13. What is one change you want your parents to change?
14. What personal handicap do you want eliminated?
15. What miracle do you want the world to have?
16. What task do you want somebody else to do for the rest of your life?
17. What is something you don't regret?
18. Tell me something you discovered recently.

1. You're stranded on an island. What book do you want with you? I choose three. Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson, The Bridges Of Madison County by Robert James Waller, and The Martian by Andy Weir.

2. What is the one meal you eat for the rest of your life? The Chinese broccoli beef rice plate.

3. What is your life mulligan? Choose one. I redo my college life from freshmen to graduation.

4. If you started college again, then what is your major? Choose a different major. Or if you dropped out of college or never attended college, then what is your major? I can say Accounting because it was an alternative major. I earned an AA degree in Accounting during The Great Recession. My answer is Geology.

5. Trade a hobby for another hobby. If I'm an anime fan today, then I trade anime for backpacking.

6. Somebody gives you $1,000,000 to choose another place to live. Where? Present location excluded. Seattle, WA.

7. What is the one TV show you want to watch all episodes? Classic The Simpsons.

8. Dream car? Audi A6.

9. What year do you want to be born? Why? 1973. I missed good opportunities because I was one year too late.

10. What knowledge do you want to learn more? I have many. My answer is automobiles.

11. Another career path? Movie critic. That is a random answer off the top of my mind.

12. Choose one sport to follow religiously. Football.

13. What is one change you want your parents to change? I want my parents to be stronger.

14. What personal handicap do you want eliminated? I can't tread water. I want to tread water.

15. What miracle do you want the world to have? I have a few including end world hunger and everyone can read. My answer is eliminating mental illnesses.

16. What task do you want somebody else to do for the rest of your life? Dusting. Remove dust in my household.

17. What is something you don't regret? I'm not a high school math teacher.

18. Tell me something you discovered recently. I discovered inpatients in a hospital have a responsibility to help medical professions do their jobs.


Wednesday, April 12, 2017

Two Personal Vows

I give myself two vows. The first vow is controlling my money. The second vow is controlling stress.

"Money is the root of all evil" is a common life quote. I vow my life is not controlled by money. I never worry about money. I live a life minimizing splurges. My splurge rule is wait 24 hours for splurging goods and services below $100 or wait 48 hours for splurging goods and services $100 and greater. I never hoard. Useless goods are sold on eBay or given away for free. I take advantage of sales. I'm patient waiting for sales on most goods and services. I shop around and research online to find the lowest price. I follow my money lifestyle whether I have $1 or $1,000,000 in my bank account. I'm the same Raymond Mar whether I have $1 or $1,000,000 in my bank account.

We're human beings. Humans absorb a certain amount of stress. Stress levels above a human being's tolerance changes himself or herself. Uncontrolled stress changes people in a negative way. I vow I control my stress for which stress doesn't control my life. Stress doesn't change my life. I have experienced people changed because of stress. I have been told stories people changed because of stress. Stressed people gain weight. Stressed people experience health problems. Stressed people lose their patience. Stressed people express their frustrations to other people. Stressed people are hard to communicate. Stressed people are hard to socialize with other people. Stressed people are unattractive. Stressed people become lost.

I control my stress eating healthy foods. I cook healthy meals. I minimize eating junk food and processed food. I eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner every day. Also, I sleep eight hours a night. Sleep rests my body, my mind, and my soul. I workout at the gym four or five days a week. I listen to music such as classical music when I eat breakfast and ambient sleep music when I sleep. The Beatles is a great band to listen when I'm stressed. And I create a circle of friends to spend time socializing soon. I'm looking for a circle of intelligent, mature, outgoing, and professional friends.


Tuesday, April 11, 2017

It's A Lonely World

I dedicate today's blog to all the lonely people. Are you lonely? So am I. I have experience more than my share feeling lonely. The feeling is bad. No description can be clearer. Loneliness is bad.

The best way the fight loneliness is be active. Attract people. Luck is a factor. Never rely 100% on luck to meet new people and make new friends. A person's actions, behavior, and knowledge are more important factors. Be a good person. Good people come to you. If loneliness is a problem taking over your life, then you may need professional help.

I have strength. I have courage. I have been active. I'm unemployed. I live with my parents. I move forward living with the two life hindrances. I job search two times a day every weekday. I workout at the gym four or five days a week. I read books. I learn new job skills such as Python and JavaScript. I review existing job skills such as Excel and SQL. I play board games. I hike. I cook meals. I open myself to experience new experiences.

Lonely people are looking for friends. Lonely people are looking for soul mates. Lonely people are looking for lovers. Don't give up finding people. I'm not giving up. I hate being lonely. Maybe I find you.

Time is the ultimate judge. I trust myself what I'm doing today helps me meet new people tomorrow. Get up and do something, anything.


Monday, April 10, 2017

Lucky To Be Alive

Everyone reading today's blog should be lucky to be alive. Today is another day. Take a deep breath. Smile. Hope for the best. Work to be the best. Earn your successes. Get up and do something, anything are signs of being lucky. Boredom kills life motivation. Desire or motivation is more important than knowledge or high intelligence.

I job search two times each weekday. I learn new job skills. I review my existing job skills. I read books. I workout at the gym. I cook healthy meals. I minimize eating out. I spend wisely. I'm not depressed. Life is getting better. My life can't get worse. I'm fortunate I'm in good health. I'm fortunate I'm not a slow person. I'm fortunate I have shelter. I'm fortunate I have a car. I'm fortunate I realized I must grow up in my 30s instead of my 50s. I'm happy. Happier moments are coming soon.


Saturday, April 01, 2017

The Best

Humans want to be the best. We want a good life. We want to be successful. Humans every day have a feeling something good happens. I have a date with the person I like. I won the sweepstakes. The company I interviewed sends me a job offer. He said yes. She said yes. I got accepted. We won the contract. The analysis supported our facts. It came true. The best is yet to come.

Why do we feel the best comes soon? My answer is obvious: everyone wants the best. We do anything hoping, praying, wishing, working, and believing for the best. How do we achieve the best? My answer is everything from small to large and from logical to stupidity. Good luck charms. Rituals. Perfect practice. Drills. Routines. Working intelligently. We need a little luck and fortunate timing. We do everything for the best.

I don't sit on a sofa watching television eight hours a day. I stay active. I'm learning Python and CSS currently. I workout at the gym four to five days a week. I keep the house clean. I cook meals. I rarely eat out. I read books. I job search weekdays two times a day. I seek new adventures. I experience new experiences. I need a little luck and fortunate timing. I have a feeling the best comes soon.


Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Throwback Blog: De Anza Week Mar 21, 2011

Blogger’s Note: Throwback blogs are blogs from my past. I start posting past blogs reflecting what I wrote. It's like my "A Second Look" blogs for which I give myself feedback.

Today's throwback blog is titled De Anza Week Mar 21, 2011 in Mar 2011. Another De Anza College blog when I went back to school during the Great Recession. The Mar 21, 2011 week was finals week for the Winter Quarter 2011. I was sick before and during finals week. Moreover, it was mid-terms at Mission College where I took Quickbooks. I ended the blog saying Winter 2011 was my worse quarter. There was a sickness bug throughout campus. Motivation was weak. Student-teacher connections were weak. It was a fatigued quarter. Everyone had grit. Everyone adjusted.

Mon Mar 21

Today was the last day of instruction. Finals started tomorrow. My Intermediate Acct professor was on-call for jury duty. The probability was rare to be called in on the first day and the probability was rare to serve. My professor was called in and he served.

The professor arrived late. He showed his juror badge. The students received the practice final from a student at the beginning of class. We received extra credit by completing the practice final by Friday, the day of our final. The professor lectured and reviewed a few of the questions. The final was Chapters 16, 18, and 19.

Intro to Business was my first final. There were conflicts with some students if we took the final on Wed. Everyone choose to have the final today. The final was 100 questions consisted of 40% new material after the third mid-term and 60% old material. I didn’t study. My feeling was I passed the class. I answered all the accounting, stocks, and investment questions correctly. I better answered them correctly because I’m an accounting major and I followed the stock market during the dot-com era. I submitted more extra credit when I submitted my final. The extra credit was 20 points for selling a stock with at least $1,000 profit and 2 points for buying and selling an exchanged traded fund involving currency.

I went home one hour earlier. It took me one hour to complete the Intro to Business final.

Tue Mar 22

My sinus infection got worse Monday night. I scheduled an appointment in the afternoon with my primary care physician. He extended my antibiotics for five more days and said I continue to take Mucinix D. He also gave me a prescription for codeine and Nasonex.

Quickbooks class was short. We took our mid-term. The mid-term was 25 true and false and 15 multiple choice. 50% of the questions were from the textbook. I didn’t study. I answered the accounting concepts questions correctly. I better answered them correctly because I’m an accounting major. There was no lecture afterwards. I start working on the take home mid-term during spring break.

Wed Mar 23

I took two teaspoons of codeine and sprayed Nasonex inside my nose. It took me a long time to sleep. The codeine didn’t work.

I went to De Anza at 12:30pm because there was a study group for Intermediate Acct. Two students including myself showed up. I studied the textbook and my classmate worked on the practice mid-term. He looked at my practice mid-term I completed Tue afternoon as a guide. I spent Monday night and Tuesday afternoon on the practice mid-term.

I went back home to eat a late lunch and read Chapter 16. I drove back to De Anza at 7:10pm for the dance class final. The turnout was small. I recognized a few students who didn’t attend. They might not know we had a final. We reviewed the Cha Cha Cha, Waltz, Salsa, Nite Club Two-Step, and our dance demo West Coast Swing. The instructor ended the class as if tonight was a regular class meeting since finals we danced longer than a regular class meeting.

Fri Mar 25

This was it. I studied Chapters 16, 18, and 19 and reviewed the practice final twice for Intermediate Acct. I did my best. My goal was to pass the class. An A, B, or C grade doesn’t matter. I just wanted to pass. My sinus infection improved such that I cough less. I thought to myself I keep warm, I cough less. I drank lots of hot water. I stopped taking codeine on Wed night and continued spraying Nasonex. I continued the antibiotics and Mucinix D. My sleep was better Wed and Thur.

The Intermediate Acct final match the practice final mostly. The professor tweaked some of the questions such that students must know their basic Accounting 1B. I forgot most of my Accounting 1B. There were no CPA questions from Chapter 16. There were three questions exactly from the practice final. The final wasn’t hard in my opinion. I thought the final was written such that to earn an A on the final you must know basic 1B.

I returned my Intro to Business rented textbook to the bookstore. If students failed to return the textbook, the bookstore charged the full price on the textbook and the student owned it. Damn!


There were few highlights in Winter ’11 quarter. Fall ’10 was the worse quarter. Winter ’11 is my worse quarter, and no other quarter comes as worse as this quarter. I choose to review the Winter ’11 highlights using a Q&A format.

What went wrong?

Laziness, boring classes, lost interest, lack of focus, no connection between the instructor and the students. There was no challenge. There was a fatigue bug throughout the quarter. It seemed everyone at De Anza including the teachers and staff were tired—lacked energy. There was also a sickness bug. My classmate in Intermediate Acct had the flu and missed one week. I had a sinus infection and I missed one week. My counselor said there was a sickness bug in her building.

The late lunch and study break between Intro to Business failed. I believed the break between the classes contributed to my quarter long fatigue. My late lunch didn’t give me enough energy to focus in dance class. I stopped attending Mon night dance class in March.

I should have taken more naps when I felt fatigue instead of fighting the fatigue. My fatigue contributed a significant part to my sinus infection.

Winter ’11 worse than San Jose State’s Fall Semester 1993?

Definitely no. I was naive, took my professors for granted such that they gave me a good grade anyways since I get along with them well, and making little efforts in my homework. I was immature back in 1993.

There were lots of incidents, events, and moments beyond your control.

There were too many. They were all in a negative way. Add them up and I felt frustrated, angry, and stressed. The small incidents included lots of red lights at intersections and long delays in the supermarket lines. The large incidents included my home almost robbed.

What was the Winter ’11 lesson learned?

I learned a life lesson in past quarters. There was no lesson learned.

What are your changes for Spring ’11?

One, consistency in my life. My daily schedule was inconsistent throughout the quarter. Sometimes I sleep early, sometimes I sleep late. Sometimes I have a good week working out three days a week, sometimes I have a bad week not working out at all.

Two, I want to control more of my life. If something bad happens, I want to take control to turn the bad to good.

Three, I have a break between my classes in Spring ’11. I’m going home instead of staying on campus.

Fourth, if I feel tired, I take a nap. Don’t fight it, sleep it.

January started great for everyone.

Yeah, January started great. I remember the first day of classes in Winter ’10. Nobody wanted to show up. The students, instructors, and staff wanted to go home and stay on vacation.

Everyone looked forward to Winter ’11 because many people had a bad 2010 year. They hoped for a good start to 2011. It seemed, at least in my classes and the staff I talked to, Winter ’11 was not a good start.

What saved Winter ’11 from a disaster?

First, seeing a doctor for my sinus infection. Initially I thought my sickness was something I recover myself like in 2009 and 2010. I needed a doctor to examine me and to prescribe antibiotics.

Second, changing my studying in Intermediate Acct. I was able to complete the pre-lecture homework without reading the chapter. The material and concepts became harder. I read the chapter first and then completed the pre-lecture homework. The change saved time, eased my frustration, and I understood the material faster.

Third, took it slow and did a little each time. For example, most of the quarter I completed my Intermediate Acct homework all in one day. The last month I completed the homework a little each day up to the due date.

Fourth, stopped attending Monday night dance class. I got more free time eating and studying at home on Mondays instead of staying on campus.

How fast was Winter ’11?

It was the fastest quarter and the fastest three months ever in my life. One advantage to the quarter system was if the class stinks, it ends faster than semester.

You received information in Fall ’10 there was a highly recommended Intro to Business instructor. He taught Tuesday and Thursday. You didn’t want to attend classes four days a week. You registered for a Monday and Wednesday Intro to Business class after Intermediate Acct. It turned out the Monday and Wednesday instructor was boring. Should you have taken the guarantee Tuesday and Thursday class?

Hindsight is 20/20. I thought nobody can screw up an introduction class. I was wrong. My Monday and Wednesday instructor was boring, unchallenging, and the homework assignments were either too easy or too confusing. If somebody can screw up a cooking a hamburger, somebody can screw up anything.

What was something you’re not going to miss?

The Intro to Business lesson videos.

What were the highlights?

I watched classic movies I checked out at the library, I submitted graduation forms, and I ate out less often.


Saturday, March 25, 2017

Top Ten Songs That Cheers Me Up Updated

I felt depressed, sad, and desponded recently. We're human. I looked at my top ten songs to cheer me up. I was shocked some of the top ten songs were on the list they shouldn't been. I felt angry. Enough said. Here are my top ten songs updated:

10. "We Are The Champions" by Queen. Band member Brian May was quoted, "We wanted to get the crowds waving and singing. It's very unifying and positive."

9. "Don't Dream It's Over" by Sixpence None The Richer. The band sang the song originally sung by Crowded House.

8. "Feel Again" by One Republic. Come back on your own. Embrace life. Love again. The song was released in 2012.

7. "Ironic" by Alanis Morissette. Part of the lyrics below:

Well life has a funny way of sneaking up on you
When you think everything's okay and everything's going right
And life has a funny way of helping you out when
You think everything's gone wrong and everything blows up
In your face

6. "Hold On" by Wilson Philips. Hang on for one more day. I'm reminded my life in the early 1990s. The song was a Song Of The Year nominee for the 1991 Grammy Awards.

5. "Unwell" by Matchbox Twenty. The song saved my ass when I was lost. I didn't know what I was doing in Sep-Oct 2008. Rob Thomas wrote the song for people who are, "messed up and feel alone like that. We all feel a little messed up sometimes... you're not alone."

4. "Better Days" by Goo Goo Dolls. I learned the power of forgiveness listening to the song. I feel optimistic. The song was originally for a Target store Christmas album.

3. "Man In The Mirror" by Michael Jackson. Part of the lyrics below:

And no message could have been any clearer
If you want to make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself, and then make a change

2. "Hey Jude" by The Beatles. Paul McCartney wrote the song to comfort John Lennon's son, Julian, during Lennon's divorce. The song comforts me in a different way. Song credited to Lennon-McCartney.

Honorable mentions: "Take A Chance" by ABBA, "Cuts Like A Knife" by Bryan Adams, "Changes" by David Bowie, "Lose Yourself" by EMINEM, "Crazy For You" by Madonna, "You're The One That I Want" by Olivia Newton-John, and "Lady Madonna" by The Beatles.

1. "Let It Be" by The Beatles. One of the best life lessons I learned. I listen to the song to remember the wisdom let it be.

Side note: Here's my initial top ten songs that cheer me up on Feb 27, 2013: Top Ten Songs That Cheers Me Up


Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Quick Raymond Mar Question And Answer

I ask myself ten short questions. I answer my questions to the point.

1. What's your next decision? My next job offer. I want my next job to be permanent or a contract job which strengthens my resume. I can accept a data entry job to earn short-term cash. A data entry job weakens my resume.

2. When do I feel free? I live independently. I make my own choices, live a good life consistently, control more of my life, and live proactively.

3. What are the things I'm grateful for? Living at home to lower my living expenses, good health, my smarter intelligence, getting stronger, and my nothing to lose attitude.

4. Why am I motivated to do what I'm doing now? I want independence. I have nothing to lose. I do whatever it takes to reach my independence. If I stop working, then I live a lonely life. The first steps I'm doing are job searching, learning new job skills, and reviewing existing job skills.

5. Am I taking risks? Yes. My parents want me to get any job as long as it pays. I'm taking a risk waiting for the job which matches my career goals and job skills. I'm not wasting my time on a job which doesn't help me get a better job.

6. What's your favorite season? Autumn. The weather begins to cool down. Football season is in the early weeks. I have some of my best moments during the autumn months and the month of December. Life goes back to normal after the summer relaxing months.

7. Do you believe in small talk? Why or why not? Yes. The reason I believe in small talk is because small talk can lead to long conversations. Small talk is an ice breaker when meeting new people. I always meet new people. I always make new friends. I believe a person can't have too many friends.

8. Where am I wasting time in a typical day? Doing too much house chores such as cooking, cleaning, and tidying up messy areas. My parents are inactive keeping the house in a livable state. If my parents put half-effort keeping the house clean and cooking meals, then I spend more time learning new job skills.

9. What are you missing in my life today? One obvious answer is independence. Another answer is knowledge and wisdom. I'm behind in job skills, life knowledge, and adult wisdom. Fortunately, I'm catching up what I missed in my younger years. If something's missing, find it.

10. What year did you want to be born? 1973. I experienced bad breaks because I was born one year later.


Thursday, March 09, 2017

Top Ten Favorite Quotes 2

Here is another top ten favorite quotes. The first Top Ten Favorite Quotes was written on Wed Dec 30, 2015. We model these famous people's successes and failures to help us live better lives.

10. Inside of a ring or out, ain't nothing wrong with going down. It's staying down that's wrong. --Muhammad Ali

9. Never underestimate the heart of a champion. --Rudy Tomjanovich

8. Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. -- Matthew 7:7

7. I miss 100% of the shots I don't take. --Wayne Gretzky

6. I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done. --Lucille Ball

5. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. --Albert Einstein

4. He not busy being born is busy dying. --Bob Dylan

3. I don't know where I'm going from here, but I promise it won't be boring. --David Bowie

2. I never blame myself when I'm not hitting. I just blame the bat and if it keeps up, I change bats. After all, if I know it isn't my fault that I'm not hitting, how can I get mad at myself? --Yogi Berra

It ain't over till it's over. --Yogi Berra

You can observe a lot by just watching. --Yogi Berra

You should always go to other people's funerals; otherwise, they won't come to yours. --Yogi Berra

I tell the kids somebody's gotta win, somebody's gotta lose. Just don't fight about it. Just try to get better. --Yogi Berra

1. Being honest may not get you a lot of friends it’ll get you the right ones. --John Lennon

Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans. --John Lennon

We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it. --John Lennon


Wednesday, March 08, 2017

A Preview My Future Health Problems

I threw up my breakfast on Sun Mar 5, 2017. I started passing gas burping. Then I started coughing. My stomach began to hurt I eventually threw up. I thought I had the stomach flu. I ate saltine crackers, drank 7-UP, drank ginger ale, ate plain toast, ate Jell-O, and ate rice Sun Mar 5-Tue Mar 7.

I realized today I don't have the stomach flu. I have serious indigestion or bloating. There are no other symptoms such as fever, headaches, or wheezing. I took two Gas-X before I went to bed last night. I realized I should eat yogurt while I feel asleep.

I ate yogurt which calmed my stomach pains in the afternoon. My stomach has been improving starting yesterday. It's like my digestive system is fatigued like muscle soreness. My digestive system needs rest.

Sun Mar 5 was the first time I threw up because I felt bloated. I felt bloated in the past. I anticipate bloating continues to be a lifelong health problem. Moreover, the common remedies for bloating such as ginger ale and saltine crackers no longer cure my bloating.

Minimizing Health Problems

The best way to minimize future health problems is being healthy today. I eat healthy meals three times a day. I minimize eating processed foods and junk foods. Moderation is incorrect. Minimize is correct. I stay hydrated. I exercise four to five days a week. I hope eating healthy, minimizing, and exercising delays and prevents future health problems. I'm going to experience health problems due to aging naturally. If I experience major health problems, then I hope I recover as quickly as I can.


Sunday, March 05, 2017

Don't Be Me

Blogger's note: Today's blog is posted at both Innovating Common Knowledge and Finding Raymond Mar.

We've been told to like ourselves. Great. There are parts of our lives we dislike. I accept. Here are parts of my life I don't want other people to be. I also share what I'm doing to turn around my dislike to like. Don't live my life I did in my past. I admit today's blog is another "don't make the same mistakes as me" blog. I remind myself as repetition; don't make these mistakes again.

1. Living at home with my parents. I remember reading a college graduating speech saying live with your parents as long as you can. I accepted the bad advice. A person knows the time to move out is when the person becomes an adult. Independence is achieved when a son or daughter moves out of the house. Become independent naturally; however, don't rush being independent. I became an adult too late in my life. I'm a late bloomer. I'm preparing my moving out when my opportunity comes.

2. Unemployed too many times. I worked in Commercial Real Estate for 8.5 years. High job security. Low career advancement. I failed to learn new skills during the 8.5 years. I learned small skills here and there. Those small skills were weak transferrable skills. The best way to minimize unemployment is learn new job skills indefinitely. I learned the lesson in Aug 2014. Job searching is a full time job. I learn new job skills such as Python and Tableau and I review existing job skills such as Excel and SQL when I'm not job searching.

3. Small circle of friends. Call my circle small. Call my circles few. There are too few people in my life. I need more friends. I need more contacts. I said goodbye to some people because I must move on. Some people held me back. Some people and I diverge to different paths. People come and go naturally in our lives. People change as time moves forward. Meet new people continuously. Make new friends continuously.

4. Expand yourself. My mind was closed most of my life when I was introduced to something new or I discovered something new for which I ignored. I opened my mind for the first time in Oct 2008. The world is full of interesting which must be discovered. Keep an open mind when introduced to new hobbies. Hobbies come and go like people. Some hobbies we lose interest naturally. Some hobbies we grow out. Some hobbies we discover new they're better than existing hobbies. Hobbies, interests, experiences, adventures, and people all belong to expand yourself. Get up and do something, anything.

5. Desire more important than knowledge. I was raised to be a smart person. High GPA is important. A's are important. Know everything. Making mistakes mean I'm a stupid person. They're all incorrect. I recently discovered desire or motivation is more important than a high IQ. My desire is the reason I'm learning new skills I never thought I learn which are Python, JavaScript, and CSS. Nobody knows the future. One of these days the new skills help me become successful. Never stop learning. Never stop innovating. Innovating infinitely. The last three sentences are motivating me to learn. Nobody needs to be smart to motivate oneself to be a better person.

Side note: Here's the top mistakes blog I wrote in my Finding Raymond Mar blog titled Top Mistakes The Final Part. Click the label "Top Mistakes" below to read my top mistakes blogs.


Saturday, March 04, 2017

I Blog, You Comment Mar 4, 2017

I believe Election 2016 and President Donald Trump are the reasons comments decreased. Take a break watching the news. Read my readers' comments below.

Speaking of taking a break, I mentioned people are tired in Today I Want To Talk About Labor Day 2016. People forget how they work well. Multi-tasking is a lie.

I take a break by not watching the news. I shut of the news after Trump was elected President. So much free time sleeping. --Gertrude Burns, Whitehall, PA

New job policy at my company. Unlimited days off. Take a break when you need it. Morale is up. Productivity is up. Fortunately the honor system works. --Oscar Nunez, Richmond, VA

You Have Problems? So Do I was a blog telling everyone I have problems and you have problems. Nobody is alone when it comes to problems.

I felt better when I read your blog. I experienced too many problems since I was a teenager. I have a little bit more motivation to get better. --iluvcookies via email

I thought I am the only person with back problems and knee problems. I lost count the number of surgeries and physical therapy. I realized there are people with back problems and knee problems, not just back problems only or knee problems only. --Sandy Jenkins, Green Bay, WI

Divorced twice. My exs cheated on me. I went to therapy finally. She put everything in perspective. I'm not the only person with these exclusive problems. I can be a winner for the first time in my life. --Angel Davidson, Coachella, CA

The world always has problems. It has in the past. It has today. It will tomorrow. The best thing we can do is live a good life. The world needs one less person with problems affecting others. --Perry Carroll, Marion, NC

I was raised by my parents telling me life is full of problems. Live your life fixing your problems because you can't avoid problems. --Edward Boyd, England

Multi-tasking is full of sh**. How can a person juggle many problems at the same time? At work? No way. At home? Honey, I need help. Myself? Fix my knee problems, finances, and lemon Kia. Yeah, right. --Rita Patton, Nashville, TN

I was a smart 4.0 student in high school and college. Awesome. Nope. I learned book knowledge. I didn't learn life knowledge. I live on my own being an idiot who can't solve problems outside the classrooms. --Milton Wang, Rochester, NY

A shelter life equals ignoring problems. I'm paying the price at 40 years old. I don't know when I'm caught up or when I learn what I missed years ago or even decades ago. --Tabitha Underwood, Rockledge, FL

It's great we work hard to create something new. We must remember to maintain our lives. I remind myself in Maintenance Is Important As Innovating Infinitely. Find time for personal maintenance just like a car, a computer, and a home.

Sleep, shower, read a book, and brush my teeth are my daily maintenance. --Sheila Schneider, Ashburn, VA

I spend a minimum of two hours on a Sat or a Sun reviewing or learning new knowledge. It can be related to work or personal interest. --Kent Fuller, Australia

As a baseball coach, I remind my players to spend time maintaining themselves outside baseball. A great baseball player is well-rounded inside and outside the game. --David Edwards, Los Angeles, CA

Senior citizens reminisce their young years being outside in SOMT: Cities, Downtowns, Stores, Parties Meet People where they met people out of their houses. In contrast, many young people today isolate themselves with their electronic devices.

I remember the crazy conversations, pranks, avoiding the police, staying past 2am when I was in high school. I remember the partying, LSD, and trying something new just to try something new. That's living life. That's learning not in school. --Betty Banks, Norcross, GA

I met my wife at a social activity outside the home. My grandkids tell me they meet their dates online. That's not dating. --Curt Collins, Fayetteville, NC

Video games are making people dumb. Why? It's obvious. They're playing video games. For the love of your brains youths, go outside and stimulate it. Not in front of a TV. --Erika Frank, Crawfordsville, IN

Many people disagreed Luck Is Part Of Life. I blogged luck is a determining factor how we live our lives in the present. Sometimes our moments come down to good luck or bad luck.

I worked hard to become a professional lawyer. Luck didn't help me become a partner. Long hours, learning from my mistakes, and listening to my clients are the reasons I'm successful. --Paul Rose, North Bergen, NJ

I don't believe in luck. If something bad happened to me, then there was a reason. I analyzed what I did wrong. I wrote my mistakes. I corrected my mistakes. Success follows. No luck here. --Keller Schultz, Concord, NH

I'm a successful business owner. It's not luck. It's being smart. Making timely business decisions. Prepare for the future when the economy is going up and when the economy is going down. I have backup plans ready. --Melvin Jimenez via email

I teach my son and daughter luck is not a factor to become successful. I tell them luck isn't going to get them A's and B's in school. Study hard. --Jaime Nichols, Orange, NJ

I remember I wear my lucky ring when I needed luck. My father told me to not wear my lucky ring the next time I needed luck. I didn't, and I haven't since. I'm 35. No more lucky ring since I was 17. --Lisa Hansen, Reno, NV

100 is an approximate number of good luck moments. Winning contracts, winning a contest, etc. etc. I can't tell you how good luck and good fortunate helped me. --Wilbert Reyes, Portland, ME

Bad luck is my motto in life. I do everything right. I have little to show. And I have health problems requiring frequent visits to the doctor. My life is on pause too many times. My life is full of bad luck. --Steve Holloway, Milwaukee, WI


Monday, February 27, 2017

Throwback Blog: De Anza Week May 31, 2010

Blogger’s Note: Throwback blogs are blogs from my past. I start posting past blogs reflecting what I wrote. It's like my "A Second Look" blogs for which I give myself feedback.

Today's throwback blog is titled De Anza Week May 31, 2010 in Jun 2010. I blogged my days I went back to college after I lost my job during The Great Recession. My experiences at De Anza College should have been experienced the first time I went to college at San Jose State University. I arrived late for classes for which my tardiness happened after Memorial Day weekend. I scored high test scores even though I studied half-ass. I crammed upcoming tests. I discovered something new which was eat Milky Way bars cold. I took advantage of being a student again which was completed satisfactory.

Mon May 31, 2010

No school. Memorial Day weekend.

Tue June 1, 2010

We got our second mid-term scores. I arrived late. I entered the door and the instructor called my name to get my mid-term. Good timing, lol. The instructor was not happy. She was more angry than the first mid-term in Acct 1B. One person almost got a perfect. There were three students who scored above 88%. I was one of the three. I got a 90%.

Note to self: eat Milky Way candy bars cold.

I forgot to mention the second mid-term for Bus 18 the instructor added four points for the curve. There were two announcements. The first announcement was class on Thur June 10 is not cancelled. The second announcement is the third mid-term is delayed from Thur June 3 to Tue June 8. This weekend I'm cramming.

I got a 105% for the Acct 66 mid-term. The extra credit increased my score above 100%. The adjustments for studying the class paid off. Unbelievable! One question was difficult I actually answered most of it correctly.

Thur June 3, 2010

The last quiz for Acct 1C was taken. I got an 8 out of 10. Not too bad for me not reading chapter 24 and not doing the homework. The chapter is almost completed.

This weekend I'm cramming four chapters for Tue's mid-term in Bus 18. I have a homework assignment to help me study.

After Bus 18 I went home because I forgot to put the defrosted chicken in the refrigerator. I stopped at McDonalds for a 10 piece chicken mcnugget combo dinner. Throughout the day I have been eating out: breakfast, lunch, snacks. All the food I ate I purchased.

I arrived 15 minutes late for Acct 66C. The instructor jokingly asked "Why I was late?" I got caught off guard I had no response. I sarcastically sprinted to my seat. The class was boring again. I focused on the lecture and copying the homework from the projector.

This weekend is catch up on all schoolwork.


Sunday, February 26, 2017

Top Ten Advice I Reference In My Life

Honest people follow their own life advice. They are being themselves. They help other people in trouble giving good life advice they experienced themselves. Here are the top ten advice I reference in my life:

10. Innovate Infinitely. Never stop improving life. Never stop learning. Never stop innovating life.

9. Steve Jobs Quotes. There are many Steve Jobs quotes. Here are a few of my favorites: (1) Stay hungry, stay foolish. (2) You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. (3) Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. (4) Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. (5) I began to realize that an intuitive understanding and consciousness was more significant than abstract thinking and intellectual logical analysis . . . intuition is a very powerful thing, more powerful than intellect, in my opinion. That's had a big impact on my work.

8. My Daily Rules Of Life. (1) Don't criticize, condemn, and complain, and don't compare with others. (2) Don't act like a jerk or bitch. (3) Always speak calmly and be calm. (4) Don't daydream when driving. (5) Keep your head up high . . . look at their cute face when talking. (6) Breath with your nose and stand up straight. (7) Have faith. Believe in yourself. (8) Let me think. Be discrete. (9) Welcome the roller coaster life.

7. Avoid The Urge To Splurge. Wait 24 hours for buying unplanned goods or services under $100. Wait 48 hours for buying unplanned goods or services $100 and over. The rule prevents hording. Hoarding is a waste of time because time buying useless goods, waste of space in my residence, and a waste of money which I could be spent on more important goods or services.

6. Everyone Is Human. I remind myself everyone is human. We make mistakes. We learn from our mistakes. Everyone is different. We think different. We have different likes and dislikes. We have feelings. Nobody is perfect.

5. Be A Good Guy. A good guy is strong, smart, kind, and wise. A good guy helps people. A good guy is a good communicator. A good guy is professional. Don't be a nice guy.

4. Always Meet New People. Nobody can't be successful living a lonely life. Good people spend time with good people. There are times some relationships end. Never stop meeting new people. Never stop creating new circle of friends.

3. Be Intelligent. Live the present, live the moment intelligently. Work hard intelligently. Add the word intelligently to the daily routine.

2. Use Intuition. There are moments logic, knowledge, and thinking are useless. Trust the gut feeling to solve problems.

1. Simple Advice Words. Take nothing for granted. Earn my happiness. Be responsible. Grow up. Be professional. Time will tell. Be sincere.


Monday, February 20, 2017

SOMT: Flea Markets

Blogger’s Note: SOMT stands for Sign Of My Times, an occasional blog sharing my thoughts how time changes life from when I was young to today.

I remember shopping at the flea market with my family when I was young. The oldest I shopped was my sophomore year in high school. Almost all the time my family and my uncle's family shopped together. The flea market was busy. Parking lots filled to capacity. The high demand for parking spaces allowed the flea market to charge a parking fee. Police officers were on duty to control traffic and watch pedestrians cross the street.

There were activities for the family besides shopping. There were carnival rides, arcades, restaurants, live bands, midway games, and other shows I can't remember. The most common sellers were antiques, clothes, produce, toys, and music cassettes. There were many one-time sellers selling their junk. There were three wheel drink carts powered by electricity driving along the selling aisles. A person drove the cart in the front. The back of the cart was a cube which stored the drinks. The person stopped the cart, turned the swivel chair, grabbed a cup, and dispensed soda or beer. The flea market earned lots of money on hot days.

The following are some of my flea market memories:

*One visit my mom didn't purchase soda from a cart vendor because he used his hands to put ice in the cup.
*My parents purchased four love birds. They were our family pets.
*I collected baseball cards for four years. I purchased baseball cards from a regular seller.
*My family stopped watching Super Bowl XXIV at halftime to shop at the flea market. The San Francisco 49ers defeated the Denver Broncos 55-10.
*I played the arcade game Smash TV.

Times have changed. The flea market still exists with lower turnout. Parking is free; however, the flea market charges an entrance fee which makes no sense because the flea market wants to attract more shoppers. Further, the parking lot area shrank. Single family high-density homes are built on the former parking lots. There are no need for police officers to monitor automobile traffic and pedestrian traffic. I haven't seen any flea market advertising in the local media for decades. Finally, the internet changes the way we shop for bargains which includes Amazon and eBay.


Saturday, February 18, 2017

Anti-Social For The First Time

Blogger's note: Today's blog is posted at both Innovating Common Knowledge and Finding Raymond Mar.

I feel anti-social today and yesterday for the first time in my life. I never believed people can be anti-social. People can be alone to take a break from being with people. People can't be alone to avoid human contact. I'm incorrect. People can be alone to avoid human contact.

I believe I'm anti-social for the entire week. I had trouble sleeping Sun Feb 12. I thought my trouble was drinking Coke and an adrenaline rush--Coke and adrenaline are a bad mix. Today's blog questions the Coke and adrenaline. I workout at the gym yesterday and earlier today only. I didn't workout most of the weekdays. I didn't learn Python and JavaScript the entire work week. I did review Excel and VBA earlier today before going to the gym. I job searched inconsistently. The bottom line is I'm not being myself.

Why do I feel anti-social? Can it be a chemical imbalance? Can it be a hormone imbalance? My brain messes up my feelings. I'm not a psychologist. My answers are yes. Also, I have thought about me being a failure. I'm doing my best to find a job, meet new people, and live independently. None of the three exist. I ask myself what am I doing wrong? Sometimes I answer I'm doing everything correctly. I'm strengthening my resume learning new job skills. I job search two times a day five days a week. I workout at the gym four or five days a week. Sometimes I answer I'm a failure. Almost all the people I know have jobs, live independently, and have a social life. They're mature adults living independently. I want to stay away from them. It's not their fault I feel anti-social. I feel like a failure when I'm in their presence.

Today's blog is an example I'm a human being. Feeling anti-social is temporary. I continue holding on. I hope next week I'm myself again. Life flows my way soon.


Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Wrap Up 2016 Pics

I wrap up the 2016 year in pictures. I hope 2017 brings more pictures. Eating garlic tater tots for the first time. Maybe I order them frozen delivered to an Amazon locker or I order more watching a Dodgers game at AT&T Park hearing Vin Scully. I play Munchkin at home because I was sick. I studied the spinal column waiting for the doctor. Proverbs can’t save Office Depot from closing stores. Gregg Popovich for USA President minimizes business closers. I recycle all my drugs because I don’t need them when I eat property prepared Chinese roast pork.


Wednesday, February 08, 2017

Motivated To Do What I'm Doing

My motivation is at my highest in my entire life. I'm motivated to be strong, smart, kind, and wise. I'm motivated to earn my independence. I'm learning new job skills and reviewing existing job knowledge six days a week. I'm learning Python for the second time. I'm reviewing HTML. I'm learning HTML5 and CSS next. I job search five days a week. I say goodbye to people hindering my motivation to be independence. I workout at the gym four or five days a week. I find time to relax such as read a book or watch a movie. I pace myself to avoid burnout.

I recently discovered motivation is more important than knowledge. My "will" is more important than my "knowledge". Desire is more important than book smarts. Anyone who feels unsuccessful must find the courage to generate self-motivation to work hard becoming successful. Enduring pain is a sign of courage. Learning from failure is a sign of growth. There is nothing to lose being unsuccessful. I have nothing to lose. I'm at the bottom working to move up. Get up and do something, anything.

My independence, my new knowledge, my new career, the people I meet, the people who are involved in my life including friendships and co-workers, new circle of friends, new experiences, new adventures . . . all of them are coming to my life. Be patient. Good things come to those who wait. Good things come to those working at them. Happiness is my end result.


Sunday, February 05, 2017

2016 Year In Review. Is 2016 or 2007 The Worst Year Of My Life?

I stopped my year in reviews a long time ago. I don't remember the last time I wrote a review. Reviewing past years were a waste of time. I believed the reviews brought me bad luck. I never understood why people do personal yearly reviews. 2016 was a bad year. I revive reviewing my past year because I want to learn what I did wrong. Could I have done something different? What were the good choices? What were the bad choices? I select my 2016 Moment Of The Year first. There were highlights. I reflect my 2016 second. Finally, I answer the question is 2016 or 2007 the worst year of my life.

2016 Moment Of The Year
Nominees: Innovate Infinitely Webpage Redesigned; Learning New Job Skills Such As CSS, HTML5, Linux, Python, and VBA; Samsung Galaxy S7; Zion National Park
Explanation: I was inspired to redesign my webpage because I wanted to learn HTML5 and CSS. I also wanted to redesign my webpage to add my webpage to my resume comfortably. I also learned new job skills to strengthen my resume. I purchased a new smart phone replacing my HTC One M7. My cousin organized a second trip to Zion National Park in the last two years for which we hiked The Subway Bottom Up.
What Won: Zion National Park
What Should Have Won: Zion National Park
My Thoughts Jan 2017: The winner Zion National Park was a no-brainer. Zion should have won in 2015. Learning New Job Skills won in 2014.

Reflect 2016

The four nominees for my 2016 Moment Of The Year said how bad my 2016. The four nominees, quality-wise and quantity-wise, were poor moments. 2016 was a bad year. I job searched two times a day five days a week. I worked out at the gym four or five days a week. I learned new job skills and review existing job skills five or six days a week. I minimized eating junk food. I read books. I controlled my spending. I was a good person. Where were the rewards? I'm still unemployed. I still live with my parents. I'm not in the driver's seat in my life. I continue waiting for my life car to drive--to maximize control of my own life. I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

Moreover, everyone upgrades their smart phones. If it wasn't for learning new job skills, then I never redesign my webpage.

My top concerns ending 2016 and entering 2017 are meeting new people and making new friends. My 2016 social life was almost nonexistent. I'm afraid my lack of social interaction weakens my social skills. Nobody wants to be with a loser.

Life is a zero sum. There are some people who experienced a good 2016. 2016 was a bad year for many people. I'm in the majority. I hope for a good 2017.

Is 2016 or 2007 The Worst Year Of My Life?

2016 and 2007 are the only bad years of my life from Jan 1 to Dec 31. I took 2007 for granted. I got a new job. I owned my first car. I failed to take advantage of the good moments given to me. 2007 was a bad year because I was naive. I took 2007 for granted. I'm a mature, a professional, and a good person today. I did everything right in 2016. Nothing happened. Bad luck. Bad timing. 2016 was a boring year. The answer is obvious. 2016 is the worst year of my life.

Side note: There were seven nominees for my 2007 Moment Of The Year. Click Moment Of The Years to view my past moments.


Sunday, January 29, 2017

The Perfect Person

Who is the perfect person? The perfecto is perfect on the inside and the outside. A he or a she doesn't matter. He or she commits no mistakes except when being a speedy learner. The perfecto is healthy. The perfecto is strong, courageous, kind, considerate, polite, wise, intelligent, and quick. The perfecto is beautiful, handsome, gorgeous, . . . even great reproductive organs. The perfecto cooks meals, sleeps eight hours a day, writes with readable penmanship, throws a football, sew, and draws art. There is no snoring, no grinding teeth, and no kicking the blankets. The hands and feet have perfect nails, no fungus, no callous, and no dry skin. Vision is 20/20. No allergies. The perfecto never spills milk, drops chocolate on the floor, cuts his or her hand, and loses the car keys. The perfecto drives a manual transmission, remembers appointments, drives without getting lost, and takes pictures with professional knowledge. People call the perfecto to socialize, to ask for help, and to lead a project. The perfecto ages just like the late Dick Clark.

The perfect person is not perfect. What is the flaw? The flaw is the perfecto has no flaws.


Monday, January 16, 2017

Reflecting And Connecting Both Technology And My Childhood

One advantage being unemployed is having all the time in the world; in particular, to fix unexpected problems immediately. I discovered water inside the passenger side front and rear of my car earlier today. I vacuumed the water with a wet-vac. I placed the car mats outside to dry in the sun after I wet-vac the mats. I drove around on the freeway with the air conditioning on maximum cold and highest fan running errands for 45 minutes. I hope I unclogged the A/C drain. I ruled out a leaking heater core, leaking windshield seal, and leaking sun roof for now. I check my car tomorrow morning.

I looked at the children at a private school across the street between vacuuming. I was reminded when I was a child in grade school. My childhood didn't have smart phones, tablets, desktop PCs and the internet. My video game console was the Atari 2600. My childhood friends called each other on the landline telephone to communicate. My childhood friends physically spent time together to socialize. My childhood friends communicated silently exchanging written notes or letters. My childhood friends researched information reading books.

Today's children have access to mobile phones, tablets, and desktop PCs to access the internet. The devices give children many more choices to play video games. In addition, there are more video game consoles such as the Playstation, XBOX, and Nintendo. The devices give children more choices to communicate anywhere. The devices give children more choices to socialize even by themselves in their rooms. The devices give children texting, posting, and emailing to communicate silently. The internet is accessed to research information.

A common concern among today's children is social skills. Today's technology is creating more isolation among today's children. Children need to get out, meet people, and make new friends face to face. Children develop social awkwardness, weak self-esteem and poor communication skills when they reach their teenage and young adult years. My quick opinion is these experts don't know what the children's future regarding human relations. We don't know the future. Maybe the new social normal is communicating anywhere and anytime without face to face interaction. Friendships online is good as friendships offline. There is nothing to fear. Human communication is human communication. Today's technology gives us more communication choices. Everyone is talking to each other. There is less need for human face to face interaction socially, professionally, and with family.

Finally, I observed a couple walking their child. The father was pushing a tricycle the couple's child was riding. There was no communication between the father and child. The mother who appeared to be expecting their second child was on her smart phone. The distance between the mother and the father became longer because the mother slowed down her walking pace. I stopped observing when the mother stopped her walk and the father waited for her 75 feet away.


Saturday, January 14, 2017

Live Quitting Or Die Believing

A common life quote is "patience is a virtue." How long does a person wait? How long does a person believe?

I'm job searching since my contract was satisfied. I have been getting calls, interviewing on the phone, and interviewing in person. No job offers. I review my existing job skills such as Excel, Access, and SQL. I learn new job skills such as Python and CSS. I believe I find a new job. I believe what I'm doing now helps me in the future. I have faith the job skills I learn are used in my next job. I have faith the books I read keeps my brain strong. I have faith working out at the gym slows down my aging.

I digress. When do I stop believing I find a job? When do I stop believing I live independently? When do I stop believing I meet new people and create new circle of friends? We're all human. Life goes on. Frustration can defeat a person's motivation. I must be strong. I must be courageous. On the other hand, what is strength and courageous? I live my weekday unemployed. What am I going to do?

How long do I wait? How long do I believe? One more year? Three more months? My entire life to the day I die? I have nothing to lose. I can quit to live a life being a nobody. There's something inside me keeping my hopes alive. I tell myself being a nobody is not me. I motivate myself to move out of the house. I want to be in the driver's seat controlling my life, living a consistent life, making my own choices, and living proactively.

Generally speaking, how long does a person believe? The length depends on the situation, the magnitude, the circumstances, the alternatives or the substitutes, and the individual. There is no correct or incorrect answer. There are no standards or formulas. Making the football team. Buying a house. Earning a job promotion. Graduating from an academy. Mastering a skill. Finding love. Overcoming an addiction. Being healthy after recovering from health problems. When does a person stop believing after how many failed attempts? It's a judgment call.


Friday, January 13, 2017

Instant Bullets Blog Jan 13, 2017

*Parents and teaching. There must be an inverse relationship between teaching discipline and being easy going. The less teaching knowledge, nurturing, parenting involvement, sharing life experience and life wisdom the more fun, relax, and easy life their children lives. My opinion is stressed and fatigued parents are too tired to parent their children after a day's work.

*Birthdays matter. Surround yourself with good people to celebrate good birthdays. Be sincere.

*Congratulations to the Chicago Cubs winning the World Series 2016! The 108 year curse is over.

*Why did I deliver my absentee ballot to my polling place instead of mailing my ballot on Election Day 2016? No postage required. I mailed my past ballots. Perhaps, I wanted to feel old school delivering my ballot in a historical election.

*My one minute manager course. The manager must do his or her best honestly and sincerely which is the minimum. However, the absolute minimum is don't be an asshole.

*Strong people are happy. Weak people are sad. Happiness is achieved pursuing happiness. Happiness is earned. Chase happiness. Strength, courage, and making mistakes intelligently are required to be happy.

*Most of the news I watch on TV are bad. Most of the news I hear when I'm socializing are good. TV ratings are high when most of the news is negative. Most people live a good life communicating good conversations while hiding their own bad stories. Ironic. The world is really not bad to be alive. Most people like you and me have problems. Most of us are afraid to share our bad feelings.


Saturday, January 07, 2017

Top Ten Men Truths wrote an article Men Reveal Harsh Truths That Every Man Should Accept: 19 Harsh Truths That Every Man Needs To Accept on Thur Jan 5, 2017. These truths are shared from common ordinary men like you and me. The topics are successes, relationships, sex, happiness, and anime. The article inspires me to share my men truths. These truths are from my experience and from my observations. I bet $1,000,000 most twenty-year olds and some thirty-year olds ignore my truths. Also, most forty-year olds and older know I speak the truth.

Number four and number five is one truth separated into two. Number four is don't be sorry for yourself for your problems. Number five is stop complaining about your crappy life. Here are the top ten men truths:

10. Patience is a virtue. However, there is no virtue being patient watching television and/or playing video games eight hours a day.

9. If you haven't kissed a girl by age 30, then there's something wrong with you.

8. You can't change your past. You can change your opinion about your past.

7. Never ignore your problems hoping they go away. Sometimes ignoring problems work. Sometimes ignoring problems don't work. The late Steve Jobs ignored his problems. One problem he ignored cost him his life.

6. Nobody lives a life protected from harm. Never take life for granted such that nothing negative happens to you which is naive thinking. Somehow and someway life finds a way to give you tragedy. On the other hand, somehow and someway life finds a way to help you when you're in a bind.

5. Stop complaining about your crappy life. Life doesn't care about your problems. Too fat? Get physical. Eat healthy. No job? Search every weekday for jobs. Learn new job skills. No friends? Learn social skills. Get help.

4. Stop blaming your problems on other people: friends, family, significant other, co-workers, bosses, neighbors, ex's, and competitors. Don't be sorry for yourself. Be responsible. Be strong. Be courageous. Man up. Solve your problems. Get help.

3. Most successful people never admit timing and luck are factors to their accomplishments. They're factors without question. However, they're not the only factors themselves to be successful. Hard work, intelligence, repetition, and grit are factors, too.

2. A common saying a person's inside is more important than a person's outside. The common saying is false. Inside and outside are equally important. A gentleman presents himself strong and confident never wears plain white t-shirts, light colored jeans, and shoes and socks from Costco. He puts effort looking good on the outside to communicate truthfully looking good on the inside, and vice versa.

Honorable mention: Everybody is weird. You're weird. I'm weird. For example, one of my hobbies is taking pictures of police cars. Yes, it's weird taking pictures of police cars.

1. Time is the ultimate judge. Time will tell what you're doing in the present results in something good or something bad in the future.


Tuesday, January 03, 2017

Schools Have Summer Vacations And Life Has Summer Vacations

2016 was a bad year for the majority of the people. We wanted 2016 to end. We wanted 2017 to begin. 2017 begins a new year. 2017 begins a new beginning. 2017 begins a new *fill in the blank*.

I wrote a blog You Must Create The Endings on Mon Apr 30, 2007. I blogged schools and colleges have endings when the school year breaks for vacation. Life doesn't have endings. People are responsible for their endings.

I correct myself. Life does have endings. Dec 31 is the ending of a calendar year. There are endings to a season such as sports and television. There are fiscal year endings. Life can be one book series with chapters, volumes, acts, and parts. Sometimes people control their endings. Sometimes fate, destiny, karma, life itself, call it whatever, controls the ending. Nothing lasts forever.

Further, life has summer vacations in another viewpoint. There are times people need to stop for a breath. Timeouts and checkpoints are part of life. People take vacations to break routine. We need to refresh. We need to recharge. We need a temporary escape. Everyone find time for a vacation no matter how big or how small. The vacation must be sincere.


Monday, January 02, 2017

Allergies And Coughs October 2016

I was sick and I wasn't sick. I experienced a throat infection which healed itself using Zyrtec. It appeared to be an allergy infection on the throat. Coughing was so-so. I log my treatment to remember the next time I experience a sore throat and cough. I also note the likely causes with a percentage probability under "How Did I Get Sick?".

Fri Oct 21, 2016. Itchy throat came and went at night. I drank water which temporary relives the itchiness. Total sleep time was 10 hours.

Sat Oct 22. I woke up early in the morning with a sore throat. I took a Chloraseptic sore throat lozenge. I started drinking Coke. Total sleep time was nine hours last night.

Sun Oct 23. I took another Chloraseptic sore throat lozenge. I took a two hour nap in the afternoon. I thought of allergies like July 2011 when I was in Los Angeles.

Mon Oct 24. I took another Chloraseptic. Light coughing began because of post nasal drip. I took a GasX for bloating. I drank Coke. I slept 10 hours last night without coughing was a good sign my sickness was not serious.

I wondered if my water bottle I use to cool room temperature Crystal Geyser bottle water in the refrigerator I never cleaned was a cause.

Tue Oct 25. Night coughing began last night because of post nasal drip. Total sleep time was six hours. Sore throat was gone. I drank Coke for lunch and dinner. Phlegm color was white.

Wed Oct 26. I turned on the humidifier at 6:10am. I immediately slept. My post nasal drip intensified in the afternoon. I lost my voice. Weather was terrible with 80s in the daytime and 50s in the nighttime. My body experienced difficult adjusting the big difference in highs and lows.

Thur Oct 27. I slept last night at a 45 degree angle. I turned off the humidifier. I immediately slept. I took a Mucinex DM at 9:30am. Coughed up yellow color thick phlegm. I resumed drinking Coke for lunch and dinner. I experienced diarrhea because of a Mucinex side effect and I drank too much water.

Enough was enough. I went to my favorite Urgent Care Center. It didn't accept my new insurance plan. I call my primary care physician tomorrow morning. I was forced to tough it out another night for which I couldn't sleep between 2am and 6am because post nasal drip kept me coughing. No more humidifier.

Fri Oct 28. My primary care physician was on vacation. I went to another urgent care center which accepted my new insurance.

The physician assistant found nothing serious. My throat was recovering. My throat was neither sore nor red as I thought. She told me to take Zyrtec to control post nasal drip. Stop taking Mucinex. I have a virus in recovery. No bacterial infection.

I slept good. I woke up to coughing in the late evening. I drank water. I went back to sleep.

Sat Oct 29. Post nasal drip improved. Coughing became occasional. The coughing was nothing in comparison to past sicknesses. It was cough and done. I craved to eat more. I splurged eating candy.

Sun Oct 30. I washed my blankets, mattress protector, and pillow protector. I dusted my room, my mattress, and behind my bed. I replaced my old sheets with clean sheets.

I slept with a minor problem last night. I felt warm. I slept with one blanket. I fell asleep. Total time was seven hours.

Mon Oct 31. I slept 10.5 hours last night. Best sleep in a week. I woke up when my throat was dried. I coughed less in bed. Post nasal drip improved in the evening.

Tue Nov 1. I slept 9.5 hours straight without waking up last night. Post nasal drip causing me to cough decreased. I ate yogurt in the afternoon. I kept myself warm to cough less. Unfortunately, post nasal drip and coughing intensified at night and falling asleep.

Wed Nov 2. I slept nine hours last night. I woke up when my throat or mouth was dried. I drank water. Post nasal drip didn't cause me to cough. I stopped taking Zyrtec.

Thur Nov 3. No dry throat while I slept eight hours last night. Feeling cold aggravated my post nasal drip. I felt great for hours. The seconds of post nasal drip irritated my throat I coughed nonstop for a minute.

The morning and evening were too cold. I wore long sleeve shirt and pajamas. The afternoon was too warm. I wore a t-shirt and shorts. The temperatures were 75 for the high and 51 for the low.

I took a Zyrtec at 8:35pm. I worked out at the gym doing an easy walk on the tread mill at 10:20pm.

Fri Nov 4. I slept for nine hours last night uninterrupted. No dry throat. The temperatures were 77 for the high and 51 for the low. I took a one hour nap because I experienced a headache. I continued taking Zyrtec.

Sat Nov 5. 73 high and 55 low temperatures. Another good sleep last night totaling nine hours without a dry throat.

Sun Nov 6. 74 high and 55 low temperatures. I slept nine hours plus one hour because of daylight standard time last night. Post nasal with coughing came and went. Phlegm color was white. I continued taking Zyrtec at 10:30pm.

Mon Nov 7. I slept for seven hours last night. I woke up twice because of a dry throat. The high was 75 and the low was 57. I wore a sweatshirt at night while I cooked. I was too warm. I wore my sweatshirt around my shoulders. I took a Zyrtec at 10:45pm.

Tue Nov 8. 77 was the high and 55 was the low. I ate two pieces of bread before I went to bed. No post nasal drip problems while I fell asleep.

Wed Nov 9. Unseasonably warm mild weather continued. 77 was the high and 55 was the low. I took a Zyrtec at midnight Thur Nov 10 because I forgot to take it earlier. Gym workouts continued walking on the treadmill to stay physically active. The air was dry.

Thur Nov 10. Temperatures reached a high of 79 and a low of 56. I slept last night 8.5 hours with a bed sheet and one blanket. Was my warm body heat sensitive coming back? No post nasal drip and coughing.

Fri Nov 11. Temperatures reached a high of 77 and a low of 56. I slept last night 8.5 hours. No post nasal drip and coughing. I worked out at the gym with the machines weights one set only.

Sat Nov 12. Temperatures reached a high of 75 and a low of 52. No post nasal drip last night because I ate two slices of bread before I went to bed? I experience my throat was dry and post nasal drip once.

Sun Nov 13. I experienced post nasal drip and dry throat in the late morning. I drank water. I felt good.

Mon Nov 14. Temperatures were going down at a high of 69 and a low of 52. The highs and lows didn't matter. The difference between the highs and lows matters. Also, where the difference between the highs and lows matters. A temperature range between 100 and 80 doesn't matter to me. A temperature range between 70 and 50 does matter to me.

I adjusted my Zyrtec schedule to take one at noon. When did I stop taking Zyrtec? Was the answer cooler temperatures and/or consistent weather? No more post nasal drip? No more dry air? Post nasal drips stopped when I drink water, eat my meals, and stay warm in the evening.

Tue Nov 15. Temperatures continued going down at a high of 68 and a low of 50. I experienced one post nasal drip attack with lots of coughing. The air was extremely dry.

Wed Nov 16. I slept nine hours last night. Weather got cooler and consistent. The high was 64 and the low was 43.

Sat Nov 19. I took a Zyrtec at noon. I stopped taking Zyrtec on Thur Nov 17. The weather warmed up to 73 as the high and 54 as the low.

Fri Nov 25. Post nasal drip and coughing came back. I took a Zyrtec at 1:30pm. I doubted eating stale Oreo cookies and Goldfish, drinking old Coke, and my nephew recovering from his sickness caused me to cough.

Sat Nov 26. I took a Zyrtec at 2:00pm. Air was dry. I drank water when my throat felt dry. I drank Coke when I ate lunch and dinner.

Sun Nov 27. A brief strong cough happened at 1:00pm. I took a Zyrtec at 2:00pm. I continued drinking Coke eating lunch and dinner.

Mon Nov 28. There were a few post nasal drip and coughing while I slept last night. I cleaned the house. I vacuumed my sister's dog fur in the living room and family room. Did the dog shedding fur cause my second allergy attack? I continued taking Zyrtec at 2:00pm. I stopped drinking Coke.

Tue Nov 29. Good sleep last night. Coughs were few. Phlegm color was white. I took a 20 minute nap.

Wed Nov 30. I experienced trouble sleeping last night which included waking up to cough. I slept for eight hours. Post nasal drip and coughing happened when I felt cold. Possible relapse becoming sick again like May 2015? I resumed drinking Coke for lunch and dinner.

Thur Dec 1. One cough woke up me last night. One cough in the afternoon. I took a Zyrtec at 2:45pm.

Fri Dec 2. I took a Zyrtec at 3:00pm. I continued drinking Coke. All was good.

Sat Dec 3. I took a Zyrtec at 4:00pm. One cough in the morning. I was cold which was good. No more 70s temperatures.

Mon Dec 5. I took a Zyrtec and drank Coke for lunch as a precaution. It turned out today was the last day I took a Zyrtec.

How Did I Get Sick?

Expired ginger ale. I drank the ginger ale on Thur Oct 20. Probability: 10%.

New bread. I ate Artesano bread for the first time on Fri Oct 21. Probability: 10%.

Chiptole chicken bowl mild spiced salsa. Chiptole has been in the news regarding food safety. Personally, I never experienced any food sickness. The mild spice was the spiciest I ate on Sun Oct 16. I didn't drink soda. The bowl must be considered. Probability: 20%.

The smelly person at the gym. There is a gym member with bad body odor walking on the treadmill. I was on the stationary bike. I moved to another bike further away from the gym member minutes after the smell discovery. The time I was closer to the gym member might have been enough to contract a virus from him. Probability: 40%.

Unseasonably warm weather. The weather was mild and unseasonably warm in Oct and Nov weather. My body is weak adjusting to a daily big temperature differences. For example, daytime temperatures in the 80s and nighttime temperatures in the 50s confuse my body. Probability: 50%.

Similarly, dry air and stagnant air causes my body to feel like I'm in a desert. Probability: 50%.

Skipping meals. I was fatigue starting on Mon Oct 17. I ate inadequate meals starting on Sun Oct 16. Probability: 80%.

No More Making The Same Mistake

I must eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I never skip meals for the rest of my life. I remove all budget restrictions. No more eating cheap when I'm out of the house. No more being picky.

Reference Past Sickness Blogs

Finally, here are the past blogs on past sickness as a reference.

24 hour sickness on Dec 2015. Sore Throat And Runny Nose New Year's Eve 2016

My worse sickness I got from a co-worker on May 2014. Me Versus My Throat Infection And Eye Infection

The short infection could have been avoided if I ate a complete lunch and dinner on Nov 2012. Me Versus My Sinus Infection IV

My sickness from a family member on Mar 2012. Me Versus My Sinus Infection III

I discovered indoor drafts are bad and outdoor breezes are good on Sep 2011. Me Versus My Sinus Infection II

I should have went home before playing games in a house with stagnant warm air on Mar 2011. Me Versus My Sinus Infection