Monday, December 11, 2017

You're Not Perfect, You Have Flaws

The title is obvious. Nobody is perfect. Every human being has weaknesses. Every human being has flaws. Think critically. Think honestly. There are weaknesses physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. Some of us are prone to sickness. Some of us have learning problems. Some of us have multiple personalities. Some of us live without inner peace. Some of us have buy goods too much.

I share some of my weaknesses. I have a weak short-term memory; I must write information on paper. I can't tread water. My body tolerance is weak on hot environments. I'm partially tone-deaf. I have weak gums. I read slowly. My home improvement craftsmanship is bad I make problems worse.

On the other hand, every human being has strengths. I have an above average long-term memory for which I recall moments to the month and year. My body tolerance is strong on cold environments. I'm in my best health which includes working out at the gym four days a week. I have strong teeth. I'm a clean person who keeps my residence organized; in other words, I minimize junk. My public speaking is courageous. My stress tolerance is solid. I got loss driving twice.

Long Term Relationships

Finding a loving human being is hard. It must be hard because the person you choose to spend the rest of your life must be the person with chemistry, compatibility, communication, and common interests. I can't write how to find a lasting relationship anymore clearer.


Sunday, December 10, 2017

Go Outside

Health research states the sun gives a person vitamin D. There is another important reason to go outside. The weather is unimportant. The weather can be hot, cold, sunny, rainy, or snowy. Obviously if the weather is unsafe such as hurricanes, then stay indoors. Going outside is a breath of fresh air. The body breathes air outdoors. The body moves beyond the walls. The eyes take a break from seeing the usual indoors. The eyes see the outside. There is a feeling of freedom. The simple outdoors activities such as running errands, walking around the neighborhood, eating out, and visiting friends are valid. Day trips, hiking, concerts, and festivals are also valid. Weekend vacations, week off vacations, and long trips are great. Find time to just go outside regularly. Going to work to go outside only is excluded. Go outside for leisure. Go outside to take a break.


Sunday, December 03, 2017

Black Friday 2017

My Black Friday 2017 shopping was practical. Most of the items I purchased were bare necessities. One item was a wanted item. The shopping day was good timing and was bad luck.

I shopped at Rite-Aid buying four 2-liters of Coke for $.98 at 7:12am. The As Seen On TV flashlights were a no-go. The next store was Pep Boys buying two sets of Castrol motor oil and Purolator oil filter with mail-in rebate at 7:36am.

The next two stores were department stores. I purchased Isotoner slippers, Earth Therapeutics bath sponges, and an Earth Therapeutics foot care gift set which included cream, pumice stone, and massager at Kohl's at 8:25am. I waited 15 minutes in line. I purchased two packs of Nike socks at Macy's at 9:21am. The parking lot at the shopping mall was like a normal weekend shopping day. There were plenty of parking spaces. Crowds were normal, too. Unfortunately, Macy's point of sale systems were partially down. I couldn't use my gift card. I tried to cash out my gift card at Customer Service. The systems continued to be down. I was frustrated.

I shopped online at I found out merged with Walgreens. There was a buy two, get one free Vanicream soap sale. I purchased 18 bars of soap at 12:07pm. I saved 33%. Next, I shopped online for new desktop speakers which were my wanted item. My old desktop speakers broke. I choose the Logitech Z313 2.1 speakers. Amazon sold the speakers for $25. I shopped at Fry's for which Fry's price matched Amazon's price from $50 to $25 at the cash register. Shopping at Fry's was the first time I shopped a Black Friday in the afternoon. I lined up at 2pm. I checked out at 3:30pm. The Fry's experience convinced me the best time to shop at stores with short lines is between 7am-10am.

Finally, the Macy's point of sale system gave me worries about my Target gift card becoming invalid. I purchased New Skin and Orajel mouth sore gel for the family first-aid kit at 3:54pm.

Black Fridays achieved the status quo years ago in my opinion. I shop on Black Fridays to purchase bare necessities which includes stocking up on bare necessities, to buy new durable goods, to upgrade existing durable goods, and to buy DVDs on my wish list. Black Fridays are good shopping days for appliances, clothes, new TVs, desktop parts, and towels. If I can wait for the Black Friday, then I wait.


Saturday, December 02, 2017

The World Is Too Many And Too Few

I question some common wisdom today pessimistically speaking. Never give up. Achieve your dreams. Nothing is impossible. Continue moving forward. Accept failure because you learn from failure; the end is success. There are opportunities to find. Work hard to achieve your goals. You can do anything by putting your mind to it. Be patient. There is hope. Believe in yourself. Keep the dream alive. The harder you work, the luckier you get. You are going to be successful staying focus.

Good advice from the common wisdom above. What if I say all the common wisdom above are losing strength today? Am I pessimistic? Yes. Am I being ridiculous? Maybe. Does my opinion have merit? Yes. Explain. There are too many people in the world. There are too few opportunities. Competition is fierce. Fierce may be an understatement. Competition is barbaric. Barbaric may be an overstatement today. Barbaric may be the truth tomorrow. There are too few chances for people working to be successful. There are too few breaks in life.

We can work hard intelligently to be the best people. Unfortunately, timing and luck are nothing with little opportunities. The rewards pay nothing with too many people competing for too few openings. There are too few winners for many deserving people. There are too many losers for many good people. Life is unfair. It's reality. How can Mother Earth sustain geometric population growth historically speaking decades later? Are humans going to be barbaric to survive?

Side note: I wrote a similar blog titled The Size Of The Pie Is Still The Same. I wrote too many people are greedy. There's not enough pie for everyone. The not enough pie applies to greedy people or not greedy people referencing my blog above.


Thursday, November 30, 2017

Throwback Blog: How Do They Do It? How Do They Do It?

Blogger’s Note: Throwback blogs are blogs from my past. I start posting past blogs reflecting what I wrote. It's like my "A Second Look" blogs for which I give myself feedback.

Today's throwback blog is titled How Do They Do It? How Do They Do It? in Jun 2009. I asked the question how some people attract other people to be with them. These people immediately blend in with strangers and become the main attraction instantly. Actor George Clooney is a good example of a person. These people have charisma, intelligence, good smile, dress well, strength, courage, and confidence. These people are beautiful on the inside and beautiful on the outside. I answered my question.

One observation I see daily is how some people blend easily in a crowd. The crowd is a bunch of friends, a bunch of strangers meeting for the first time, or a bunch of people in a party . . . any group of people. How do they do it? How do they blend in and bring energy and enthusiasm in a group of people? Charisma? Good vibes? Good looks? Positive energy? Tone of voice? Correct attitude? Funny? Luck?

I had a friend. High school educated, worked in retail, little overweight, 6ft tall, talked slowly, slow learner, and ten times more geek than me. In Anime Expo'99, he successfully got a press badge and watched the main events show from the side of the stage. Everytime we were together and with people, he attracted a crowd and he was an instant star. How did he do it? I have no idea.

I must be doing something wrong. Is it my voice? My voice is my voice. My looks? My braces are removed in June. My accutane treatment is half way completed. Wear makeup? Um, I think about makeup. Am I sending negative vibes? Do I act nervous? Insecure? Angry? I don't know. I'm wearing new clothing. I donated my at least 10 year old clothing. Obviously I buy new pants when I need to. I'm doing something to change and to improve my appearance. Do I need to improve my conversation skills? I say yes, I always improve my conversation skills, do anything to be more charming.

Am I portraying myself as too good a person? I'm too good? I'm too perfect? I'm not good. I'm not perfect. I have flaws. Maybe I do a good job hiding them and I don't realize it. Do I act and behave as a quiet person? Bad luck and bad timing I'm with a group of people and there is no connection between me and them? Do I scare people? I admit I laugh too much. I'm working on that bad habit. Do some people look at me as a nerd, a geek, and all of a sudden, they ignore me? I have bad luck I haven't met people like me to expand my long term circle of friends, my long-term friendships.

I want to be a person who attracts people. I don't want to be a person who chases people. I have many ways to communicate including texting, AIM, Yahoo IM, and Facebook to keep in touch. I want to meet new people. I want to portray myself as a fun and good person, and create long term friendships. Age, race, creed, education. Doesn't matter. I have a desire to meet new people. I want to be a "there he is person." I avoid the jerks, bitches, and people full of drama.

In Fanime 2009, I hung out with a few friends who introduced me to more friends. Some of them do it. They attract people. They're funny. They're the source of energy, source of fun, and source of enthusiasm. How do they do it? I'm still trying to figure it out. Confidence? Opening up? I had a few highlights being with them. What I did was followed how they were having fun. They were my models, my examples how to behave and to act. Oh, I did wear makeup when I wore my costumes. OMG, what a difference!!! People were coming up to me. I don't recall a past anime convention where so many people came up to me to talk, to joke, and to take a picture of me.

The lessons I learned regarding how people attract, retain, and earn friendships and being a friendly good guy are having the attitude of being cheerful, not being a stuck up. Have courage to speak up and everyone makes mistakes and say stupid jokes. Make sure what you say is appropriate; in other words, be tactful when meeting new people. Yes, I have lots more to learn.

Side note: I review my top five rules for daily living:

1. Don't criticize, condemn, and complain, and don't compare with others.
2. Don't act like a jerk or bitch.
3. Always speak calmly and be calm.
4. Don't daydream when driving.
5. Keep your head up high . . . look at the cute face when talking.


Saturday, November 25, 2017

Research Reading Sunday Ads

The Sunday newspaper is one activity I look forward. I like to read the Sunday advertisements. I pay attention to the sale prices for retail items such as body wash, bottle water, clothes, and spices. I believe in shopping around waiting for sale prices on goods. Add up the small savings equals big savings in a calendar year. I'm fortunate with good timing most of my items I buy at stores are on sale. Also, I gage the cost of living in my county.

Another reason I read Sunday advertisements is new products available. My eyes experienced dryness recently. I knew Visine eye drops wasn't my solution. I found Refresh Tear eye drops researching online which relieved my dry eyes. It was the first time I discovered eye drops other than curing redness. I notice Refresh Tear eye drops in Sunday advertisements.

Sometimes new products have been in the market for years I notice for the first time; for example, first aid supplies, new foods, and over-the-counter drugs available without a prescription. I discover technology consumers can purchase such as new TVs, new phones, and new computer hardware. Sunday advertisements are an old-school consumer information source; likewise for Wednesday advertisements.


Saturday, November 18, 2017

My Personal Circle Of Trust

If you can trust yourself, then good moments are coming soon. Everything I'm doing today results in a happy future. The late Steve Jobs said it best, "You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something--your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life."

I'm trusting myself. I'm not believing in myself. Trust and believe are two separate thoughts. I'm my own personal mentor; although, I'm open to making new mentors. There are setbacks, frustrations, and depressing moments. I trust myself I overcome these three moments. I trust myself life goes my way. I share what I'm doing below for an independent life. I may be right. I may be wrong. I don't know my future. Time is the ultimate judge.

*Intuition. Trust my gut feeling. I must trust my intuition to save me from problems. I don't think when I make jokes. Jobs said, "Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary." Jobs also said, "I began to realize that an intuitive understanding and consciousness was more significant than abstract thinking and intellectual logical analysis . . . intuition is a very powerful thing, more powerful than intellect, in my opinion. That's had a big impact on my work."

*New Circle Of Friends. I attract new people. I attract new friends. New people are coming to my life as long as I'm a good guy getting stronger, smarter, kinder, and wiser. One of the people I meet is a woman I'm going to marry.

*Learning New Job Skills. Finding A Job. I have been learning new skills such as Python, dashboards, and JavaScript. I have been reviewing existing skills such as SQL, Excel, and SalesForce. Repetition, review, repeat, relearn. I'm not quitting finding a new job. I'm doing the best I can. I have nothing to lose.

*Control, Consistency, Choices, and Proactive. I trust myself today and tomorrow I control more of my life, live a good life consistently, make good choices, and be proactive every day.

*Stay Active. I trust my hobbies and activities keep me moving. I'm physically active working out at the gym four or five days a week. I hike at trails. I'm intellectually active reading books, playing board games, learning new concepts, and learning new job skills mentioned above. I'm emotionally stable controlling stress. I act calmly. I speak calmly. I practice my spiritually sleeping eight hours a night. And I'm financially worry-free. I'm looking forward to a new career to strengthen my finances. My life is not hording. I do almost nothing because I don't have the money in the meantime.

*My wisdom grows learning from my mistakes. I avoid repeating my mistakes. I seek new adventures exposing myself to new opportunities to grow. I experience new experiences to expand my life.

*Finally, stay hungry, stay foolish.


Monday, November 13, 2017

Eleven Pics To Catch Up

I posted a blog with nine pics in May 2017. Today’s blog is 11 pics to average 10 pics per pic blogs. The 11 pics are a variety: paying the same price for less, online grocery shopping, life’s good moments getting married, life’s bad luck playing poker, telling people the obvious cold and hot, lifestyles for the rich, new insects, a first time or second time cat pic, consumer’s attention to cheap goods, cute anime, and consumer’s attention to closing stores.


Saturday, November 11, 2017

Instant Bullets Blog Nov 11, 2017

*In-N-Out Secret Menu. I ordered the Double Meat from In-N-Out's secret menu. It was the first time I ordered from their secret menu. The Double Meat is different than the Double Double. The Double Meat includes two hamburger patties without cheese. No more ordering two individual hamburgers. Here are the websites listing the secret menu: In-N-Out Official Not-So-Secret-Menu and Spoon University 31 Genus Ways To Hack The In-N-Out Menu.

*Super breakfast. There are days I anticipate eating a late lunch. My super breakfast is two pieces of bread, a bigger serving of fruit, almonds or walnuts, Craisins, granola bars or Belivita breakfast bars, and a bigger bowl of cereal or a bowl of oatmeal.

*Agree or disagree? It's better to be lucky than be smart.

*Three parts of a job interview. Two of the three parts of a job interview is obvious. They're the interviewer or interviewers and the interviewee. The third part is the circumstances. The parties may not get along. The interviewee may be the best qualified; however, if the interviewee is a jerk, then no job offer. Conversely, the job system has rewarded job candidates with recent experience and relevant knowledge. Good personality is secondary. The bottom line is if any circumstance says no hire or no job offer, then the position remains open.

Moreover, younger aged interviewers prioritize a plethora of skills, relevant knowledge, and recent experiences. Older aged interviewers prioritize good character, positive attitude, strong work ethics, and an easy personality.

*Life is a full circle. Good moments happen to good people. Bad moments happen to bad people. Life can be cruel. Life can be weird. Life can be unfair. There are exceptions.

Sometimes we thought we do good when we actually doing bad. We realize the good or the bad in time. Steve Jobs said, "You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something--your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever."

Time will tell what you do today is good tomorrow. I believe time is the ultimate judge.

*$6.60 lesson. I failed to look at the expiration date for a 20% off coupon at an online store. I redeemed the coupon two days after the expiration date. Lesson learned. The first sentence I read is the percent off savings. The second sentence I read is the expiration date for all coupons. The third sentence I read is the restrictions.

*Relationships are hard. Most relationships are hard. Most relationships should be hard because the best relationships require hard work intelligently. Dynamic relationships and intelligent relationships require all parties to participate. The types of relationships I refer include professional, friendship, and marriage. All long-term relationships are hard to find and hard to maintain.

*Top Ten New York Times Books Best Seller list in 2008. The following books made the top ten in any given week in Fall 2008. I wonder if I read these books earlier than Sat Oct 4, 2008 I might have realized I needed to grow up earlier. I grew up on Sat Oct 4, 2008. The list below is in no particular order with the release date in parenthesis.

--The Choice by Nicholas Sparks (09/24/07)
--The Road by Cormac McCarthy (09/26/06)
--Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell (11/18/08)
--Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert (02/16/06)
--Love Walked In by Marisa De Los Santos (11/28/06)
--I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell by Tucker Max (January 2006)
--Freakonomics by Steven Levitt and Stephen Dubner (04/12/05)
--The Shack by WM. Paul Young (May 2007)

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho and Dewey by Bret Witter (09/24/08) books are on my wish list.

*I close my mouth when I brush my teeth. I reach the back of my teeth easier. My mouth is big.

*I swish with warm salt water to help heal my tongue from hot food burn.

*Friday night Nov 10, 2017. I turned back the clock when I played video games all night ending in early morning. I played Japanese Mahjong online at Tenhou. It was like I played Team Fortress 2 ten years ago. I heard soccer families playing at the school across the street. No more all night video games.

*Desperate times. Desperate measures. There is an increase telemarketers calling on weeknights and weekends. Also, job recruiters are calling my cell phone on Saturdays.


Wednesday, November 08, 2017

Never Say Never Or Always Be Open Minded

I have been playing Japanese Mahjong or Riichi since Oct 2009. Mon Nov 6, 2017 was the first day I played Riichi online with players around the world. The free Japanese site is Tenhou. There is no English site. Reading Japanese is unnecessary. There are websites with English screenshots and English documentation to learn the commands. Here are some websites: Reach Mahjong Of New York translation, Saki Wiki Tenhou instructions, and Arcturus complete translation wiki. Here is a Youtube video from DdRMaSTeRDan.

I know Tenhou months after I started playing Riichi. I stayed away from playing online because I wanted to play with people and I minimize playing video games especially since I retired from anime in Sep 2014. It has been difficult finding people locally to play with me. Also, I have higher priorities. Tenhou is a low priority leisure activity. I play Tenhou on weekends when I have free time; however, there is no substitution playing with people to socialize. Playing Tenhou on the weekday Mon Nov 6 was an introduction day.

Always be open to anything. I associate playing Riichi at Tenhou a personal instance of never say never.


Saturday, November 04, 2017

I Blog, You Comment Nov 4, 2017

A message to everyone feeling tired. Get extra sleep immediately. The best comments are below.

My parent's former neighbors The Shermans past away. The husband past away in Apr 2017. The wife past away in Jul 2017. The husband reminded me never stop learning in a person's senior years. Never Stop Learning Lesson Emphasized Because One Of The Shermans Past Away blog reminds everyone use your brain every day.

My parents continued learning in their retirement years. On the other hand my in-laws stopped learning. I can tell who are sharp and who aren't sharp as time continued. -- Heather Sparks, Lynn, MA

My children called out on me losing my memory. Forgot my keys. Forgot the time to pick up my grandchildren from school. Then I started spending more time reading books, taking walks. I started watching less television. I could think again. -- Eugene West, Greenfield, IN

I questioned What Is Believe. Anything we do must be done. Common examples include earning a degree, winning a contract, and becoming a champion. Do we really need to believe we succeed?

I emphasize believe everyday coaching my high school women sports. They must believe in themselves. Some of my players have no parents. I must tell them to believe so they can believe in themselves. --Joyce French, Buffalo, NY

You know I think back to raising my kids. I believe I never mentioned believe when I taught them life lessons. --Connie Bates, Jacksonville Beach, FL

Anyone that tells someone to believe in yourself doesn't know how to teach. --Melissa via email

Believe is important. People who believe in themselves have confidence. --Andrea Alvarez, Mexico

A couple comments expressed fear their small cities are losing the small city feeling. I experienced a small city feeling in A Praise For Small Cities

I blame the tech companies for small cities becoming big cities. My city used to have lots of open fields. Now these open fields are commercial buildings and high-density housing. The city is crowded. I never wanted to live in a crowded city. More people in public areas. --Devin Kim, Pleasanton, CA

I'm in my 70s. I have to concentrate harder on the road because there [are] more cars. Also, I'm sad these ma and pa stores I used to shop are closing not because of the big box stores. It's because of the internet. --Eva Floyd, WA


Monday, October 30, 2017

Throwback Blog: Top Ten Life Lessons From The Beatles

Blogger’s Note: Throwback blogs are blogs from my past. I start posting past blogs reflecting what I wrote. It's like my "A Second Look" blogs for which I give myself feedback.

Today's throwback blog is titled Top Ten Life Lessons From The Beatles in Jul 2015. My top ten lessons are valid today. Life gets better. Treat your lover well. The sun always rises. Men who knows the something in their women love is strong. A strong support is important to be successful. Communication is important in any relationship. The roads and the life are long and winding. Trust your feelings. Sometimes you must go back to your past to correct present mistakes. And let it be.

One of my friend's classmates was born in Russia when he attended San Jose State University. He learned English listening to The Beatles. I replied, "He also learned life lessons." The conversation inspired me to blog the top ten Beatles songs I learned life lessons:

10. Getting Better. Be optimistic. Paul McCartney was quoted, "It's getting better all the time." John Lennon replied, "Can't get no worse!" Lennon also admitted in reference to the song he was physically and verbally abusive to his women. He learned to be peaceful. He stopped being violent.

9. You're Going To Lose That Girl. Treat your girl with respect, appreciation, and kindness. Otherwise, she finds another man. Maybe the other man is a friend. Likewise for women. Women must also treat their man with respect, appreciation, and kindness.

8. Here Comes The Sun. My take on the song is the world didn't come to an end. The sun rises the next day. George Harrison wrote the song with Eric Clapton in April 1969. The month experienced the most hours of sunlight in London after an unseasonably cold February and March. The record was broken in April 1984.

7. Something. George Harrison was quoted in a Rolling Stone magazine on writing love songs, "All love is part of a universal love. When you love a woman, it's the God in her that you see." What is the something you see in a women you want to spend the rest of your life with here.

6. Carry That Weight. I believe Carry That Weight was the only song all four Beatles sang together. Don't carry your entire life on your shoulders. Successful people must have people to assist them.

5. We Can Work It Out. One of the lyrics states, "Life is very short. There's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend." I feel sad hearing relationships break off. I refer to any relationships: friendships, romantic, companionship, professional partnerships, neighbors, etc. Sometimes the break off is natural. Sometimes the break off is not natural—it can be saved. If there are conflicts, then people must find ways to keep it going. Wise up. Get stronger.

4. The Long And Winding Road. The song was The Beatles' 20th and last number one song in the USA on June 1970. McCartney was quoted, "It's rather a sad song." Sad songs can acknowledge a person's sad feelings. My take on the song is life is not a simple short road and straight shot to happiness.

3. I've Got A Feeling. I believe there are some human feelings which can't be explained in words. I also believe humans should trust their feelings. I'm going to follow the feeling. McCartney wrote the song for his late wife Linda Eastman.

2. Get Back The song was performed three times as part of the rooftop performance on top of Apple Studios in Savile Row, London. Police interrupted their performance because of noise complaints from office workers.

My take on the song is if I'm experiencing life problems, go back to my past. Remember my past successes and past failures to help me solve my current problems.

1. Let It Be. McCartney dreamed about his mother. His mother told him, "It will be all right, just let it be." McCartney was blessed to have the dream to inspire him writing "Let It Be."


Sunday, October 29, 2017

SOMT: McDonald's Big Mac Combo $2.99 And Donut Shop Donuts $0.50

Blogger’s Note: SOMT stands for Sign Of My Times, an occasional blog sharing my thoughts how time changes life from when I was young to today.

The inspiration for today's blog was buying two donuts at a donut shop on May 2017. The last time I purchased donuts at the same donut shop was Oct 2014. The cost for two glazed donuts was $1.90. I paid $2.20 last month for two smaller sized glazed donuts.

I remember when retail prices, grocery prices, and restaurant prices were cheaper. Almost everyone agrees the past times were easier. Almost everyone agrees the past times were cheaper. People paid $2.99 for a Big Mac number one combo. Gas prices were in the $1.00-$2.00 per gallon, and people complained when prices broke $2.00 per gallon. Many homes owners never thought their homes reached a million dollars. Some of those homes are breaking the million dollar mark in hot real estate markets. Many landlords never thought their apartments reached a thousand dollars per month. Some of those apartments are breaking the thousand dollar mark in high demand markets. Movie matinee was $4.25. College education, medical insurance, and utilities are common knowledge prices are going up.

Prices are going up. Welcome to Economics 101. Supply and demand. Inflation. Cost of living increase. One can say prices are going down. One can say prices for medical care are cheaper. Better technology to run tests faster and more accurate decreases wait time for patients. New surgery techniques patients recover faster resulting in less time as a hospital inpatient. There are more over-the-counter drugs more powerful requiring fewer dosages.

One can say prices for operating all ground transportation are cheaper. Gas mileage is better. There are hybrid cars. Ground transportation innovates their durability lasts longer compared to 40 years ago. Desktop computers are cheaper such as bigger disk drive memory. Computer hardware lasts longer in durability and in more performance; for example, motherboards don't need a video card for basic desktop use. LED light bulbs are energy efficient costing pennies. The cost of backpacking equipment is going down because the durability lasts longer and equipment serves more functions. Flat panel television, clothing, and appliances are common knowledge prices have been going down.

Perspective determines whether we are living prices going up or prices doing down. Perspective is correct on both viewpoints. Costco's food court prices are the same since Costco opened their food courts.


Saturday, October 21, 2017

Top Ten Daily Changes After O'Connor Hospital

I was an impatient in a hospital on Apr 2017 for the first time in my life. I was diagnosed with Acute Gallstone Pancreatitis. I needed two surgeries. The first surgery removed gallstones or Endoscopic Retrograde Cholangio Pancreatography (ERCP). The second surgery removed my gallbladder or Laparoscopic Cholecystectomy. I stayed in O'Connor Hospital for five days and four nights.

Taking time away from daily routines can be good. Examples of taking time away are a vacation, a sabbatical, a temporary assignment or task, and being an inpatient in a hospital. Sometimes taking time away changes daily routines. There are new routines. There are routines no longer needed. There are existing routines improved. There is a new outlook on routines big and small. New wisdom, stronger, smarter, and growth can happen.

Here are the top ten daily changes after O'Connor Hospital. The daily changes also happened during my recovery period at home.

10. Drink Less Water. Common knowledge says humans should drink eight glasses of water a day. It doesn't apply to my body.

9. Browse Less Online. No more checking Amazon's Deal Of The Day. No more checking Kickstarter.

8. Read Personal Email Daily. I read all email once a day instead of reading all my lower priority emails once a week.

7. New Jobs Search Schedule. I continue job searching two times every weekday. I switch job searching some websites from the afternoon to the evening and vice versa. I started applying for Business Systems Analyst as long as I qualify for 50% of the job requirements. I brought back the Sun morning job search.

6. New Dental Care. Good hygiene prevents health problems. I change my cup once a week instead of once every two weeks when I brush my teeth. I use a Waterpix. I brought back proxabrushes.

I have a heighten importance to practice good dental care when my welcome inpatient basket included mouthwash, toothbrush, and toothpaste. O'Connor Hospital knows dental care is important to prevent spreading bacteria. I brushed my teeth two times a day. I rinsed my mouth with mouthwash when my mouth felt dirty.

5. Spend Extra Money Eating Out. There are times I must eat out. There is no spending limit when I eat at restaurants. Health, energy, and focus are priority when I'm out of the house. I avoid getting sick due to fatigue.

4. I have a new respect for medical personnel which includes doctors, nurses, and technicians. I already have a respect for first responders and engineers.

3. New Podcast Schedule. Podcasts are off when I job search. I listen to podcasts driving, cooking, and cleaning the house.

2. R-E-L-A-X. Take it easy on weekends. Everyone needs a break. I stopped my sense of urgency getting a job. Take it slow. Take small steps. Increment. Add all the little things something big happens.

No more personal projects on weekends. Weekend gym workouts are allowed if I missed a weekday gym day. The Sun job search is brief.

1. Understand Personal Responsibility. The inpatient or outpatient has a responsibility to help medical personnel do their jobs. In other words, help the medical personnel to help me. Make it easier for them to take care of me. Keep them informed any changes. I take care of myself when I can take care of myself. Patient responsibility is an example of personal responsibility.


Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Change Says No To Raymond Mar

I drove by two elementary schools I attended in my childhood earlier today because I was in the neighborhood completing errands. The first school is Serra Elementary School in Sunnyvale, CA. I attended Serra in kindergarten and first grade. Serra closed at the end of the 1988-1989 school year according to the California Department Of Education. Serra is a Montessori school today. The second school is R.I. Meyerholz Elementary School or Meyerholz in San Jose, CA. I attended Meyerholz in second grade and third grade. Seeing the two schools inspired me to write today's blog. There are two parts. Part I is my thoughts on change. Part II is my life on change.

Part I: There Is A Change Every Second

Nobody lives the same life. Life finds a way to change you. Life finds a way to change your surroundings. Every day you go outside there is a change. Every day indoors something changes even beyond your control; for example, a new refrigerator to replace a broken refrigerator or upgrading windows. Life finds a way to change anything. Life changes everything. You can control some changes. You can't control some changes.

One example of change is a married couple. Life changes the partners in time. I'm single for which I guarantee life changes the partners in time. The couple hopes with good luck and good fortune the change flows favorably the couple changes together they are married their entire lives. I hear stories couples divorce after being married for at least 20 years.

I saw Serra and Meyerholz schools changed. There are more classroom buildings. There are more parking spaces. The playgrounds shrank. The grass fields shrank because more fields are paved with asphalt. The height of the perimeter fences is lowered. However, the original buildings remain with new paint color. I'm guessing the schools were built in the 1950s.

Part II: When's My Next Change?

My first change was on Sat Oct 4, 2008. It was the day I realized I must grow up. I stopped taking life for granted. I became responsible. I must earn my successes. My life changed forever living life as a mature adult.

There is no change number two yet. My second change is freedom. My freedom includes working full time, living at my own residence, and in love with a woman. I work hard daily to earn my freedom. Life is telling me no change today. It's like I submit a request to life I want a change to live in freedom. Life rejects my request. Reapply tomorrow. The rejections are piling up. The losing streak continues.

There have been small changes. These small changes are too small for the big change. Some of the small changes are retiring from anime, reading more fiction books than nonfiction books, new gym workouts, and saying goodbye to people who held me back. Change number two is a big change.

The bottom line is I can't quit. If I stop applying for change number two life, then I guarantee no change. I have no freedom. I earn my second change life approves my request eventually.

Side note: I heard the song "Changes" by the late David Bowie in front of Meyerholz.


Sunday, October 08, 2017

Staying Busy Hoping For The Best

I make gains every day. It's a small gain or a big gain. I learn something new such as Python, JavaScript, and CSS. I review something existing such as SQL and Excel. I drill myself such as repeat learning Python and working out at the gym. There are the everyday tasks such as job searching, reading books, eating healthy, and sleeping eight hours a night. The gains can be generalized getting better, getting stronger, being braver, getting smarter, and acquiring wisdom.

I continue either moving forward or moving upwards; each practically means the same. I describe with any adjective or adverb. I work hard intelligently I earn my good outcomes. I live life continuing--no quitting. If I quit, then there's no hope for the best. The people, the friends, the good luck, the opportunities, the money, and the fortunes are coming soon. They come to me. Life flows with me.

I never complain about my current life. I focus on my life joys. I have no time being dreadful wasting my life. I'm happy. There is more happiness in my future.


Monday, October 02, 2017

Some Of My Favorite Movie Scenes

One YouTube positive everyone agrees is watching favorite scenes from movies. Here are some of my favorite movie scenes.

Good Will Hunting. Chuckie is brutally honest with Will he owes Chuckie to not waste his genius talents or else Chuckie kills Will.

Lean On Me. Dr. Frank Napier tells Principal Joe Clark he is the H.N.I.C.

The Patriot. Benjamin Martin and two of his sons ambush the British to rescue the eldest son. Violent movie scene.

Predator Part I and Predator Part II. Guerrilla base attack scene one and scene two. Violent movie scenes.

Rocky IV. Rocky Balboa trains in U.S.S.R. to fight Drago.

Moneyball. Billy Beane meets with the scouts to discuss replacing Oakland A's ballplayers lost via free agency.

Dead Poet's Society. Various scenes John Keating interacting with his students. The scene where Keating tells his students to stand on the teacher's desk is included.

Stand By Me. Chris Chambers teaches Gordie Lachance grown-up wisdom don't let anyone "drag you down."

Traffic. Seth Abrahms teaches Robert Wakefield drug economics.

A Few Good Men. "You can't handle the truth" courtroom scene.

Here are two good opening scenes.

Deadpool. The opening song is Angel Of The Morning by Juice Newton.

Hell Or High Water. Brothers Toby and Tanner Howard rob two banks in the morning.


Sunday, October 01, 2017

Turn Back The Clock On Anime

I saw a tweet showing a smartphone with No Face as its wallpaper from the anime movie Spirited Away. The tweet inspired me to turn back the clock to one of my longest hobbies Japanese Anime. I retired from anime in Sep 2014.

My turn back the clock was watching episodes from selected anime series. These classic anime series have good plot, good character, originality, rely less on graphics, and rely more on good story. Some of these anime series are classics from my generation. Here is the timeline below:

Thur Sep 14: No Face was my temporary smartphone’s wallpaper. I included the original No Face and my smartphone wallpaper No Face above. I watched Ranma 1/2 volume 1 episode 15 and volume 2 episodes 1 and 2 Viz Video USA release.

Fri Sep 15: I watched Cowboy Bebop episodes 1 and 5. I watched Card Captor Sakura episode 21.

Sat Sep 16. I watched Sailor Moon episodes 37 and 39.

Sun Sep 17: I watched Spirited Away and Card Captor Sakura episode 3.

Mon Sep 18: I listened to Card Captor Sakura Character Songbook CD. I watched Tenchi Muyo TV series episodes 1 and 2.

Tue Sep 19: I watched Sailor Moon Stars episodes 187 and 188.

Sat Sep 23: I watched Maho Tsukai Tai OVA episode 3. I watched Hime-Chan No Ribbon episodes 22 and 39.

The turn back the clock was supposed to be seven days. I added bonus episodes after watching Maho Tsukai Tai OVA episode 3 because I needed to watch the last two episodes. Also, I didn’t watch any Sailor Moon Super episodes.

Mon Sep 25: I watched Sailor Moon Super episode 114.

Wed Sep 27: I watched Sailor Moon Super episode 115.

Sat Sep 30: I watched Maho Tsukai Tai OVA episodes 5 and 6.


Saturday, September 30, 2017

Throwback Blog: SOMT: Kodak Declares Bankruptcy

Blogger’s Note: Throwback blogs are blogs from my past. I start posting past blogs reflecting what I wrote. It's like my "A Second Look" blogs for which I give myself feedback.

Today's throwback blog is titled SOMT: Kodak Declares Bankruptcy in Jan 2012. Toys R Us declared bankruptcy on Sep 19, 2017. There is truth the better companies Amazon and Wal-Mart ruined Toys R Us. The deeper truth is mismanagement. I know somebody who knew a manager who worked at Borders. The manger told her the top reason Borders went bankrupt was mismanagement. The economy changes. Business practices change. Time changes anything. Companies stay in business as long as they can. Companies don't last forever. Good management keeps companies in business as long as they can.

Blogger’s Note: SOMT stands for Sign Of My Times, an occasional blog sharing my thoughts how time changes life from when I was young to today.

CNBC reported the 131 year old company Eastman Kodak declared bankruptcy. The company has no cash to continue operations, and bankruptcy provides the company with protection to survive. Kodak is shifting their business plan to printers for home and commercial use.

My dad was a good amateur photographer. He took family pictures when my siblings and I were young. He developed and printed black & white pictures from college to his young parenting years. I remember shopping at LZ Premiums, a local ma & pa discount photo store that sells photography equipment, film, development services, and photo developing equipment. LZ Premiums expanded their store selling televisions and renting VHS movies in the mid 1980s. I’m guessing the store expanded because of competition from bigger stores selling photography equipment and services such as Circuit City and a small chain of camera and video stores known today as Wolf Camera. LZ Premiums went out of business.

I took black & white photography in 1991 while I in 11th grade. I used one of my dad’s Nikon cameras to take pictures for my assignments. I purchased my first film camera in Dec 2002. Digital cameras were too expensive for me. The first time I held a digital camera was on July 2000. A friend owned a Casio digital camera that used 3.5 inch floppy disks.

I purchased my first digital camera in July 2003. The first pics I took with my Olympus were our family vacation in Los Angeles, San Diego, Las Vegas, and the Grand Canyon. I purchased my second digital camera in May 2004. It was the Canon Powershot A75. The A75 was a rock I dropped it so many times. I took many pictures at anime conventions and my vacations in 2004-2005.

Digital cameras and photography are everywhere. Cell phones can take pictures. People can take as many pictures as they want—even an ant on the sidewalk. There is no need to be picky taking pictures with film. I started my digital photography with point & shoot cameras. I use a SLR today. I consider myself an amateur below my dad’s skills. Regardless, anyone can take good pictures with today’s digital cameras.

Stubborn Is Another Bad S Word

Going back to Kodak, the company was stubborn to enter the digital market. It stayed in the film business years after digital photography started becoming mainstream. Kodak lost money staying in the film photography. They were too late entering the digital market.

George Eastman founded Kodak from his photography hobby. He found ways to make photography easy for common people including the photography paper and easily transporting camera film. Eastman debuted Kodachrome film in 1935.


Saturday, September 23, 2017

Life Goes On

My dad and I got last minute tickets for Thursday Night Football San Francisco 49ers vs. Los Angeles Rams on Thur Sep 21, 2017. We rode public transportation to avoid parking at Levi's Stadium. Today's blog is inspired on our way to the football game.

All variants of today's blog title are true. Life moves forward. The sun rises the next day. There is a future. Tomorrow is another day. Anything that happens today good and bad anything happens tomorrow good and bad.

The 49ers are one of worse teams entering the 2017 NFL season. The 49ers must play football even though football analysts project a losing record. 49ers fans watched the football game in the less than half occupied stadium. There were stadium workers, football players, coaches, security, TV personnel, and sponsors. Incomes were earned. Revenues were generated. The football game is in the schedule. The game must be played regardless of how many people attended the stadium, how many people watched the game on TV, and how many people listened to the game on radio. The 49ers are 0-3 as of today's blog.

Good moments, good events, bad moments, and bad events happen every day, every hour, and every minute. The recent natural disasters Hurricane Harvey in Texas, Hurricane Irma in Florida, Hurricane Maria in Puerto Rico and Virgin Islands, and the earthquake in Mexico. There is trash talk between President Donald Trump and North Korea Supreme Leader Kim Jong-un. There are newsworthy successes such as a business going public, a sports team winning a championship, and a hero rescue. Everyone has personal problems. Every common human being has problems. Medical problems. Relationship problems. Professional problems. Unemployment. Car accidents. Everyone has personal happy moments. Marriages. Buying a car. Buying a home. Job promotion. Graduation. Learning new skills. Vacations. Freedom.

I thought about life goes on while the light rail train transports my dad and I to Levi's Stadium. I see the tech buildings, manufacturing factories, and apartments along the way. Life is unfair. Life goes on. We continue living. Perhaps living life is a strength itself. Never give up. We do our best to live. We hope to get the big break. We hope to discover the one moment to change our lives. We have grit. Life goes on whether life is good and life is bad.


Wednesday, September 20, 2017

You And I Are Weird

Agree with me 100% being weird. You're weird. I'm weird. Everyone is weird. Every human being is weird. Think carefully. There is something weird. Weirdness is subjective. Some people tolerate some weirdness. Some people reject some weirdness. Friends and family accept weirdness from their inner circles of friends and family. Weirdness makes each human unique.

I take pictures of police cars. It's weird. I believe 95% of the human population agrees. Another weirdness is I wear pajamas inside the house. I want to be comfortable. I believe 50% of the human population agrees. I sleep half naked every time I sleep. I believe 85% of the human population agrees. There are medical research sleeping partially or fully naked improves a human's immune system.

A Little Craziness

Weird and craziness can be together. I spend $200 on a pair of sunglasses for which I could have purchased a $15 pair of sunglasses both providing adequate protection for my eyes. I buy gas at Chevron. No Costco, Arco, Rotten Robbie, and no name brand gas goes inside my Toyota Camry. Many people including experts say gas is gas.

There are people who regularly sleep six hours a night. There are people who regularly sleep four hours a night. How can these people function during their waking hours? Maybe these people are too excited for everything. Maybe these people are too focused on something. They're too alert. Overwhelmed. I believe everyone has experienced the excitement and focus some nights we sleep a low amount of hours. Personally speaking, if I'm in a first time new adventure or first time new experience, then I'm excited, focused, and overwhelmed. My brain is too stimulated learning and thinking. I break down everything I observe as fast as the speed of light silently.

Finally, there is a difference between being weird and being immature. There is also a difference between being weird and behaving childish as an adult. It's okay being weird. It's okay being a little crazy. There are people who live a life dominated by their own weirdness. These people are immature. These people must grow up. Mature people control their weirdness. Mature people make the correct choices to turn on being a mature adult and turn off being a weird adult at the moment. Similarly, behaving childish as an adult is not weird. Daily childish behavior is unacceptable to live an independent life. I fail to understand some independent people behaving childish. They must have few friends and family in their lives. I anticipate many problems as these childish people continue living their present lives in their 50s and older. I hope through self-discovery the immature people and childish people grow up. The self-discovery hopefully happens sooner because these people have more time to correct their mistakes.


Sunday, September 17, 2017

When Is An Adult An Adult?

Today's question is when is an adult an adult? When the person is no longer a teenager? Age 18? Age 21? Age 16 in some areas of the world? Age is just a number. Some people are adults when they're 30 years old. Some people are adults when they're at least 40 years old. Some people are late bloomers who realize childhood life is over.

Is an adult an adult when the person is independent? The person moves out living on his or her own. There are some people who are at least 21 years old living with their parents. The reasons are valid such as financial, helping raise children, and can't find residence close to their employment. More people in their 20s and 30s are living with their parents in the Northern California Bay Area. The Bay Area becomes New York in time. Moreover, there are people living on their own behaving like a jerk. Are jerks adults? On the other hand, there are people living with their parents who are kind. There are good people who are down on their luck with no job they must live with their parents.

Are adults responsible? Are adults strong? Are adults courageous? Are adults intelligent? Do adults earn their successes? Some of these attributes are subjective. What is the scale of intelligence for an adult to be intelligent? What about physical fitness? Some people eat too much. Some people lack physical fitness. What about emotions? Some people have a closed personality they keep their emotions to themselves. What about financial? Some people are in debt. Does debt mean poor spending habits? What about spirituality? Some people practice religion. Some people have no religion.

Do adults take care of themselves? Who is a person who fails to take care of their needs? Is he or she an adult? Who do you call people abusing their bodies such as drugs and alcohol? Who do you call people irresponsible for themselves? Are these people adults who watch too much TV or spend little time making their lives better? You reap what you sow.

There are some people who take life for granted. Do adults put in the effort to live a good life? Or do adults rely too much on good luck, good fortunes, and good timing for their life highlights? Life itself determines what happens soon. Fate, destiny, and karma guide these people their futures.

Is an adult an adult who feels sorry for himself or herself? Is an adult an adult who stops caring about his or her world and the world outside? Forget life. Life is too hard. The adult takes the easy route. On the other hand, is an adult an adult who cares too much for others neglecting his or her own needs? It may be a sign of weak self-esteem. It may be a sign of loneliness needing to please other people to meet new people.

It's a judgment call. It's everyone's own opinion when is an adult an adult. Personally speaking, I know smart, kind, and strong adults living with their parents who can't afford living independently. I know adults living independently who are jerks, rude, and mean. I became an adult on Sat Oct 4, 2008. I realized I must grow up. Time will tell everything I'm doing today to live independently tomorrow is successful. I'm learning new job skills, reviewing existing job skills, staying physically fit, minimizing eating processed foods, and sleeping eight hours a day. I pace myself with leisure reading books, listening to music, and watching movies. I'm getting stronger. I'm getting smarter. My self-esteem is getting better. A little luck and good timing follow me. I hope for the best.


Sunday, September 10, 2017

Higher Priority Job Hiring And Higher Weight Job Hiring

The old days a job candidate's desire, motivation, learning attitude, good communication skills, and friendliness were top qualities. They were the highest priorities. They weigh more. A job candidate's recent experience and relevant knowledge are top qualities today. The job hiring system today values the old days' qualities at the lower priority. The old days' qualities weigh less. Discrimination? My answer is yes. Discrimination has been happening for decades.

Moreover, managers and senior workers who "don't have time to train" prefer new hires with recent experience and relevant knowledge. What about your children when they're job searching after completing their education? Most of they can't find jobs because they don't have recent experience and relevant knowledge. Their potential managers and senior workers "don't have time to train." Managers and senior workers better train your children to avoid being discriminated like you're doing to job candidates who need a break.

I understand a common life quote "what goes around comes around." I also understand better some long-term unemployed quit job searching. Artificial Intelligence eliminates more jobs as time moves forward, anyways.

The job search system must be blamed. The job hiring process must be blamed. Some recruiters calling prospective candidates either don't read their resumes or don't understand their resumes content. They see key words on their resumes. They call the candidates or they email spam the candidates. Sometimes the calls or emails spam job openings are out of their metropolitan area. These recruiters are outside the United States almost all of the time.

It's very rare to find the 100% perfect job candidate. Most hiring managers believe their dreams come true. I see job openings. Time passes. I see the same job openings again as if the hiring manger rejected all of the potential job candidates. It happens to me when I reach the interview stage. Blame the system. Blame the process.


Saturday, September 09, 2017

Instant Bullets Blog Sep 9, 2017

*Too much criticizing? Too much condemning? Too much complaining? If the answer is yes to any of the three questions, then you're stressed out. Also, you have low self-esteem. Get stronger. Get braver. Get more sleep. Eat healthy. Minimize eating processed foods. They're true.

*"Winning is only important in war and surgery." --Al McGuire, hall of fame division-1 basketball coach and analyst (1928-2001)

*First Class postage at the United States Post Office (USPS). First Class postage is purchased at the post office only. First Class postage is unavailable at The USPS needs post office jobs.

*Love Me Like You Do by Ellie Goulding. Click link for official video. Click link for a live version BBC Radio 1's Big Weekend 2016 Live at Powderham Castle, Exeter, UK. No Fifty Shades Of Grey sex scenes in the live version. Fifty Shades of Grey movie is crap. However, couples can learn intimacy knowledge.

*Child sex education. There are some parents who prepare their children in advance for reading, writing, and mathematics. Parents who want to prepare their children in advance for sex education may consider these books from Amazon: How Babies Are Made by Steven Schepp, It's Not the Stork! by Robie H. Harris, How a Baby is Made by Per Holm Kundsen, and What Makes A Baby by Cory Silverberg.

*Alice Sherman past away on July 2017. She was the wife of Bob Sherman who past away around May 2017. I wrote a blog on The Shermans.pess

*Today's problems we hear on the media are nothing new. These problems have been going on for decades. Some of the problems include racism, economic inequality, cancer, and divorce. They are the same old. Global warming is the newest problem which has been going on for decades, too. Donald Trump? He has been in the news for decades, too. We want new problems. We want fresh problems. Let's have aliens invade Earth. What's the worst problem? Your present personal problem or being lost in the woods?

*Humans Sustain Daily Life Commuting. The bullet was inspired when I helped a family friend completed home improvements on a weekday. There is no reverse commute on Interstate 880 which is one of the San Francisco Bay Area freeways. I observe freeway exits full of cars stretching out to the freeway exit only lane.

The worse is coming. Commutes are longer. Many cars on the freeways are from cities outside Silicon Valley. Homes are relatively cheaper at cities outside Silicon Valley. How long can people commuting long distances sustain the weekday work lifestyle? In particular, health-wise physically, mentally, and emotionally?

*Don't be a bad ass. An example I'm not being a bad ass is one of my personal projects. I'm reviewing database design. I'm not taking my top job skill for granted. I review to stay sharp.

*What was my best high school choice? The answer is taking geometry in summer school after my sophomore year.


Sunday, September 03, 2017

Thought Provoking Information

You be the judge for some of the pics communicating information to provoke thinking. Agree or disagree? We’re humans. We think differently. Don’t pay $1 for a pregnancy kit at a thrifty store.


Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Throwback Blog: Read Books For Your Life

Blogger’s Note: Throwback blogs are blogs from my past. I start posting past blogs reflecting what I wrote. It's like my "A Second Look" blogs for which I give myself feedback.

Today's throwback blog is titled Read Books For Your Life in Oct 2011. I blogged my opinion people must find time to read books. There are too much leisure activities requiring little brain power; moreover, some television shows people lose IQ or make people dumber. One advantage not owning cable is watching little television. Reading books is one of my top leisure activities. Reading books keep my brain sharp.

It's never too late to introduce a new hobby reading books. I started reading in 2002. I see myself reading books in my 90s. Some of my genres include juvenile, science fiction, erotica, and classic literature. I exclude romance, politics, science, and biography genres. The biography exception is Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson. I'm a sucker to book recommendations from anyone. Turn off the electronics. Tune out the daily life. Read a book.

One of my childhood regrets is I didn’t read outside school. I watched too much television. I’m happy and lucky I started reading books in 2002. I started to read business and investment books. In 2008, I started to read fiction books. I currently read fiction books including classic and juvenile with an occasional business book.

Most of us are busy and have little or no time to read. I have some understanding for the busy people. I have a suggestion for those who want to get back reading books. I have a suggestion for those who have no interest reading books and have the thought in the back of their minds they should read. I have a suggestion for those who have poor reading skills. My suggestion is read juvenile books. Start easy and start simple. There is no shame for adults reading books for 5th graders. I read juvenile books. If you feel comfortable reading an adult book later on, do it. Ernest Hemingway books are an easy adult level.

Reading is one of the best ways to keep your brain active. Reading newspapers and Where’s Waldo books don’t count. Go to a library and start reading. If you have to start reading Disney books, then do it. There are online stores and many bookstore selling used books at lower prices. Pick up a book, activate your brain, and read.


Sunday, August 20, 2017

Am I Achieving Independence? Should I Achieve Something Else?

I have been blogging I need independence. I must achieve being an independent adult. I have been living at home my entire life. Why? The answer is another conversation.

Is independence overrated? I question myself my next goals finding a job, moving out, living on my own, expanding my existing life, and finding a new life. There are some independent people better off living at home. These people are happier living at home. These people can't live independently. There is a full time worker, intelligent, yet self-centered with poor health lives at home with his or her parents. Should he or she move out to discover more about life? There is a middle aged person feeding stray cats three times a day, watches too much television, and eats processed foods living on his or her own. Maybe he or she should move back with his or her parents.

Should I Achieve Something Else? How About Freedom.

I experience frustrations achieving independence; for example, the job hiring system favors recent experience and relevant knowledge highest priorities and everything else lowest priority. I have been working hard achieving independence for years with little achievements. It's like my life is on the pause button on Raymond Mar's Blu-Ray.

Maybe I should achieve freedom. I'm free from conflicts. I'm free from hate. I'm free from grudges. I'm free from anger. I'm at peace with myself. I'm happy. I'm joyful. We say freedom when a work shift is over. We say freedom when a college quarter or semester is completed. We say freedom when a bad relationship is over. Freedom or independence? I expect follow up blogs to continue the discussion.


Saturday, August 19, 2017

Raymond Mar Act III. Act IV Coming Soon.

Blogger's note: Today's blog is posted at both Innovating Common Knowledge and Finding Raymond Mar.

I separate my life from the day I was born to today in three acts. Here they are below:

Act I: 34 Years As A Child (day I was born to Oct 3, 2008). My childhood was boring. My parents provided little guidance. They were too quiet. They were slow. They did have intelligence. Honestly speaking, they were not dumb. I learned more child life lessons watching Sesame Street. I have a small amount of childhood stories to share; likewise for my teenage years. I experienced a less than my share of typical teenage firsts such as first kiss, first date, first school dance, and first girlfriend. My high school years were 50% good and 50% bad for which some may argue I had a good high school life.

I failed to take advantage of living life in my 20s in the 1990s. The mistakes I failed to learn in my 20s caught up in my 30s. I didn't earn my successes. I wasn't responsible. I didn't meet new people. I didn't make new friends. I didn't learn new ideas. I didn't experience new experiences. I didn't seek new adventures. I failed to take advantage experimenting new ideas and trying new activities as a San Joe State University student. I took life for granted.

Act II: De Anza College (Oct 4, 2008 to Nov 19, 2013). I was a late bloomer. I was overdue for adulthood. I realized I must grow up on Sat Oct 4, 2008. The actions growing up paid off immediately. First, I forgave my parents for doing a poor job raising me as a child. I'm responsible for myself catching up what I missed in my young adult years. Second, I discovered new hobbies such as ballroom dancing thanks to my sister, hiking, reading fiction books, and listening to classic jazz. Third, I purchased a new mattress, new clothes, and built a new desktop personal computer thanks to my dad, gmontem, and Appu for guidance.

I took advantage of the Great Recession going back to college. I earned an AA degree in Accounting at De Anza College. I was satisfied I corrected some mistakes. I experienced what I should have experience when I attended San Jose State University; for example, I met new people and I made new friends. Furthermore, the time from the day I graduated at De Anza College to my first day at my new job I continued seeking new adventures and experiencing new experiences I should have done both during my 20s. I continue catching up what I missed today.

Act III: Lonely Soul (Nov 20, 2013 to day before independence date). I finally got a break working at a retail start-up. It was my first job since I lost my contract job back in Nov 2008. I was hired as a contractor in a networking company for six months after working at the retail start-up. I'm job searching, learning new job skills, and reviewing existing job skills. I pace myself with leisure reading books and watching movies. I stay in physical shape working out at the gym four to five days a week. I'm lonely most of each day.

It was time to say goodbye to people holding me behind. It was time to retire from anime. It was time to go on my own to find my independence. I don't know when I achieve independence. Independence can be tomorrow. Independence can be next month. Independence can be next year. I continue living the present life intelligently. I'm not watching TV eight hours a day. I'm doing what I feel is the best for me today. I'm doing what I feel is the best for me tomorrow. I'm open to new ideas. If I stop living, then I die.

Act IV: Independence (independence date). All of my successes. All of my failures. All of my frustrations. All of my experiences. All of my wisdom acquired. All of my mistakes and the lessons learned. One of these days I connect all of the above backwards to who I am in my future. My future is a strong, intelligent, and independent Raymond Mar. Grit, responsibility, hanging on, strength, courage, and earning my winnings pay off on the day I declare myself independent.


Monday, August 14, 2017

Be Patient, I Rescue My Loneliness And Other People's Loneliness

Some people say the world is lonely. I agree. Where are the good people in my life? Many lonely people ask the same question, too. I'm looking to create new circle of friends. My top priority is independence. The new circles of friends follow. I rescue myself and I rescue other people from loneliness when I achieve independence. I can be rescued before independence.

I want long-term good friends. I accept short-term, too. I appreciate social networks such as Facebook to keep in touch with people. Age is just a number. My definitions of good friends include being mature adults. Good friends are sociable. We converse intelligently. There is an attitude doing something new. Get up and do something, anything. We seek new experiences. We welcome new adventures. We support each other. We are tactfully open people with honestly. We laugh at our jokes. Each of us calls out others when we're wrong with discretion. Our learning never stops. Growing continues indefinitely.

I see myself living at my own residence when I achieve independence. I attract people to spend time with me. People ask me to spend time with them. All of our circles of friends enlarge. I share my hobbies, knowledge, and experiences. I hope my friends share their hobbies, knowledge, and experiences. I eliminate one lonely person one person at a time. I rescue loneliness both myself and others. They happen in my neighborhood, my apartment complex, social gatherings, my workplace, and being outdoors randomly meeting people.

Where are the lonely, unemployed, living with their parents people similar to George Costanza from Seinfeld? There are people in my situation. I'm not the only unique person. I can't find them. I welcome people with weak self-esteem if they're motivated to strengthen their self-esteem. Nobody lives a happy life being lonely.


Wednesday, August 09, 2017

Hate Yourself Today Only

Be negative. Be hateful. Dislike yourself. Hate your life. Do these today only. A common saying is be positive. The common cliques are like yourself, be true to yourself, and be who you are. Find something to like yourself. Find more to like yourself. Your good attributes defines your good character. Good things happen when you like yourself. Smile. You are you.

How come we don't talk about what we hate about ourselves with full honestly? Is the reason we say the easy solutions like yourself, be true to yourself, be who you are, etc., is we want to falsely convince ourselves nothing is wrong. We ignore our personal problems. Ignoring problems rarely work. How can we fix what's broken in ourselves when we can't honestly find what we hate about ourselves? It's ironic hating yourself can improve your life. How? You're a terrible person to yourself today. Criticize yourself today. I believe we can fix ourselves. A fix for one person may not work for another person. Each fix is different for each person.

What do you hate about you? Your looks? There's so much you can do. God gave your face. Control what you can control. New hair style. Improve your grooming or learn new grooming techniques. Try new makeup. Minimize eating processed foods. Exercise. Working out at the gym consistently slows aging. Relax. Stress speeds up aging. Change your appearance. Wear new clothes. Wear new glasses. Dress for success. Dress to attract people.

What else do you hate? Your job? If the answer is yes, then it's your responsibility to change hating your job to liking your job. Search for a new job. Find a new beginning at another company. Learn new job skills to start a new career. Seek support from co-workers. Take action to like your job. Start now.

I hope you understand the point of today's blog. Find what you need to improve your life by hating yourself. Make changes. I hate being overweight. Eat healthy. Get exercise. I hate being lonely. Learn new hobbies to find people with common interests. I hate being stupid. Learn new skills. Motivation and desire are more important than intelligence and high IQ. I hate being stressful. Get more sleep. Reduce responsibilities. I hate having too much work. Work intelligently. Create ways to complete responsibilities faster.

What do I hate today? I hate being unemployed. I job search two times a day every weekday. I'm learning new job skills which are currently Python and JavaScript. I'm reviewing existing job skills which are currently Excel, PowerPoint, and SQL. I hate being lonely most of the week. I'm preparing myself to move out to be independent. I invite people to my apartment for social activities. Moreover, I have more time to take care of myself living on my own. I have more time to seek new adventures. I have more time to experience new experiences. The adventures and experiences create new opportunities to meet new people and make new friends. My leisure activities prevent me from being a boring person. Nobody wants to be with a boring person. I workout at the gym, read books, cook, play board games, listen to music, watch movies, and write blogs. I want to share some of my hobbies with people.

Learning from failures and becoming successful learning from mistakes must be self-discovered. They can't be taught. Do the best you can. I'm doing the best I can to like myself tomorrow.


Saturday, August 05, 2017

Anything Better Than Duct Tape?

We have been looking for the next big idea every day. Getting better is good. Innovating infinitely is good. However, we must look for the next big idea intelligently. I believe we have been looking for the next big idea exhaustively. We're tired being informed someone invented a new idea. Is the new idea really new? Is the new idea going to change lives? Or is the new idea all marketing or all hype?

The next big idea mindset is with us all the time. We are over-inventing. It's like we're dumb we can't think of anything new today. We waste time finding something better all the time. If it isn't broken, then don't fix it. Does it need to be improved? Do you want to improve it? Fill in the question with similar adjectives such as improve, innovate, or change. Is the new idea a disguise over the existing idea? It's a judgment call.

If I'm a hiring manager interviewing for a job opening and the job candidate says he or she always improves daily, then I'm not hiring the job candidate. I don't want over-thinkers. I don't want analysis paralysis. I do want people who trust their intuition.

Sometimes old school is the best. Sometimes the old ways are the best. Go back in time to the core essentials. Go back in time to the early successes. Go back in time to the classics. They may be still the best today. Think back in time and front and present. Think is the old way still the best way and think is the old way needs a new way. It's a judgment call.


Wednesday, August 02, 2017

Life Gives People Lemons They Make Lemonade. Life Gives People Roses Yet Roses Have Thorns.

I dreamed briefly I was homeless. I respond to today's blog title in two parts. The reader takes anything from any or all parts.

1. I'm doing the best I can. (I'm aware I'm blogging another doing the best I can blog entry.) How do I know? I know tomorrow, next month, next six months, or next year. I continue moving forward. Something comes up. I don't sit around waiting patiently doing nothing. Can I do more? Yes. How do I know? I hope for self-discovery I do better.

2. Life today is life today. Most of life is out of our control. We do our best to control as much as we can. Sometimes we chuckle. Sometimes we laugh. Sometimes we smile. Sometimes we cry. Sometimes we shout angrily. Sometimes we sigh with frustration. We pause for a moment to express our feelings. We move forward thereafter. Don't take life too serious. Don't take life too lightly. Embrace everything good and bad.


Monday, July 31, 2017

Throwback Blog: Something New To Me

Blogger’s Note: Throwback blogs are blogs from my past. I start posting past blogs reflecting what I wrote. It's like my "A Second Look" blogs for which I give myself feedback.

Today's throwback blog is titled Something New To Me in Aug 2007. I shared a new experience unfortunately I'm still new today. People have been helping me become a better person. They share their experiences. They teach me new knowledge. They correct my mistakes. I'm having difficulty paying back or paying it forward. The best is utilizing the experiences and knowledge daily as if I remember the people by doing them; in other words, I don't waste their efforts they spent their time for me.

Also, I continue feeling uncomfortable when people thank me for my help. Perhaps one reason is I rarely help other people. I have little experience when people show appreciation for me.

I hope times change my life when I achieve independence. Independence is a sign I'm strong, smart, kind, and wise. I want to share my experiences, to teach new knowledge, and to correct mistakes to people who were in my situation as an adult catching up what I missed in my 20s and early 30s. I hope to receive appreciation sincerely.

Since 2006, something new has been happening to me. It's a new experience I continue to understand and to learn. It's a new experience some people acquired at a younger age. It's a new experience I sometimes forget how to respond, how to follow, and how to model from those who do it naturally. The experience is being thanked by others and appreciated by others for who I am and what I do.

My family has been helping me out. They pay me back for food and groceries. They rarely paid me in the past, and, honestly, I never expected them since we're family. I always say forget about paying me. Recently, my family has been consistent in paying me back. Also, my parents have been letting me go out more often. My family had lots of family events and I participated in them in the past. There have been fewer family events today so it's good timing. My family has been opening up trying new ideas and ventures. Maybe they are taking my example of living more active and trying something new attitude *hee, hee* And my family seems to be talking to me more. It's mostly small talk. It's just that they are saying more. I think my family is appreciating what I have done with appropriate action.

My friends welcome my presence and they thank me for being part of their lives. I receive appreciation in the form of constant and sincere thanks. I receive items such as CDs with mp3. I receive information I use at a future date. I receive answers for my questions, even when I think my questions are dumb. I receive money to help me buy food and items for special events. I receive welcomes when I hang out with my friends. By being with my friends, I become a better person. They share their experience, share their adventures, and share their friendship with me. And I become a better person. I'm learning a lot from them and my life has become less dull XD Yeah, my life is still dull . . . yet I see bright and happy days ahead. I really thank my friends for being a part of me, a part of a better me.

Before 2006, I thanked others and I appreciated others for helping me be who I am today, for being my friend, and for being someone who welcomed my presence and my friendship. Before 2006, I performed the extra effort, helped out a little more, and extended my assistance to my family and friends. Many times, I received no clear appreciation such that I ask myself, "Am I important to my circle of friends?" Or "Am I really helping my family?" Furthermore, I never received clear cut signals from my family and friends I'm welcomed, I'm appreciated, and I'm part of their lives. My confidence was low when I met new people, hung out with my limited friends, and participated in family activities. I felt unimportant. Was I a good person to be with or a pain in the ass?

To repeat, I continue to understand and to learn how to behave when I'm being thanked and I'm being appreciated for my actions, my attitude, my knowledge, and my friendship to my family and my friends. All the experiences are making be a better person. I'm innovating myself. By being with my family, my friends, and meeting new people, I want to learn who they are and I want them to learn who I am. I'm not used to being on the receiving end. I have always given my thanks and appreciation.

Make sure you show your appreciation to you family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, strangers, anyone who took their time, spent their money, shared their experience, and/or give information such as referrals, tips, and street directions to you. Never assume the person is appreciated. Tell them, show them your appreciation. Do some action. Say "Thank You" with sincerity. Return the favor at a later time. Treat the person or persons out for a meal. Offer something the person or persons might be interested. Do something, do some action to recognize and appreciate their assistance appropriately.