Monday, December 02, 2019

Level Up Life Infinitely

My life changed forever on Sat Oct 4, 2008. I realized I must grow up. The changes started immediately. The results happened immediately. Some examples are new clothes, new desktop PC, read more fiction books than nonfiction books, and new gym workouts. Oct-Dec 2008 set up a memorable 2009. 2009 is one of my all-time favorite years.

Fast forward to 2018. I thought year 2018 set up was like the Oct-Dec 2008 set up a memorable 2019. Some examples are renewed my passport, purchased two new pairs of gym shoes, and replaced my car's timing belt and water pump. Today is Dec 2019. It's not a memorable 2019; although, there are 29 days remaining. I connect the dots backwards from today to Jan 2018. The 2018 set up was incomplete. I need more time. I need more work. I need more training.

What's the point of the blog? Life is like a game based on experience points. Level 1 to level 2 is quick and easy. Level 20 to level 21 is longer and harder. The level 1 to level 2 is 2008 and memorable 2009. The level 20 to level 21 is 2018-2019 to maybe memorable 2020. Perhaps level 20 to level 21 is 2018-2020 to memorable 2021. I don't know the answer at present. Time is the ultimate judge. I must wait to connect the dots backwards.

The life levels never stop. Never stop leveling up life. Leveling up is infinite. Never stop innovating life.

Sunday, December 01, 2019

My Two Question Marriage Is He Or She My Spouse Till Death Do Us Part

I share two questions to ask long-term relationship couples with potential to marry. The first question is, "Do you trust your spouse to take of you if you're the weaker person?" Examples of being the weaker person are permanent physical disability, severe mental illness, long-term emotional distress, expensive financial disaster, and/or spiritual loss. Relationships change. Couples change. You change. Everyone changes. Today you're the best husband or wife. Tomorrow you're the worse nightmare like the neighborhood jerk, the roommate from hell, the community bitch, the borderline felon, or a convicted felon. Can your spouse help you become the best husband or wife? The converse is true. The converse first question is, "Do you take care of your spouse if he or she is the weaker person?"

The answer to the first question leads to the second question, "Is the couple motivated to work hard on their marriage?" A marriage is professional love. The couple is strong. The couple is brave. The marriage is always fresh. The days get better as time passes. They add new spices. They seek new adventures. They experience new experiences. The couple maintains the desire and dedication. I will is more important than I know.

John Lennon said it best about love, "We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it."

Update On A Past Blog

I was anti-social for the first time on Feb 18, 2017 Anti-Social For The First Time. Correction. I actually was anti-social for the first time on Jan 6, 2014 Feeling Anti-Social. I denied anti-social. I wanted to be alone instead because I feared being anti-social I lose my relationships. The feelings I experienced in Jan 2014 was the same feelings in Feb 2017. I wanted no human contact in real life. I wanted no human communication on my phone and online.

Wednesday, November 27, 2019

Dad Earned More Respect Years Ago

There was an article I read years ago about the sit-com series All In The Family which broadcasted from 1971 to 1979. The four main characters are Archie Bunker starring Carroll O'Connor, wife Edith Bunker starring Jean Stapleton, daughter Gloria Stapleton played by Sally Struthers, and son in-law Michael Stivic played by Rob Reiner. The article said nice and ignorant Edith was wiser than people think because she handled her narrow-minded, outspoken, and prejudiced husband Archie.

I recognize my dad handles my mom the best. My parents are not the smartest people. My parents are not the dumbest people. Mom is an opposite for which she makes a big deal out of little things and she makes a little deal out of big things. Mom is a hoarder. She gets angry when life doesn't go her way taking out her anger on other people. She complains and criticize too many times. Most plans must be done her way. Dad is quiet, a bad communicator, and rarely expresses his emotions. I start observing how dad handles mom for which I model his actions. Dad is like Edith. Mom is like Archie. Today dad earns more respect from me.

Update On A Past Blog

Tomorrow is Thur Nov 28 Thanksgiving Day. I have another thank you to add from Top Ten Thank Yous I wrote on Nov 22, 2014. I want to thank Aliencat who ended our two years and eight months relationship bittersweetly. I have been learning who I am thereafter. There have been frustrations, failures, and mistakes. There have been victories, successes, and lessons learned. I believe she broke up with me to release me. I learn new job skills such as Python and Power BI. I review SQL and VBA. I redesigned my web page Innovate Infinitely. Strength, desire, honesty, and discretion are more important than knowledge and many friends. I minimize eating processed foods and watching television. I retire watching anime and playing video games. I workout at the gym four days a week. I self-teach life skills including making paper airplanes, communicating in Morse Code, tying knots, and improving typing accuracy. If my relationship with Aliencat continues, then none of the above happens. My goal achieving freedom continues.

Sunday, November 24, 2019

The Lack Of Effort Is What People Must Be Angry

We live in the information age. It's easier to look up information compared to past generations. There can be too much information. It's easier people are misinformed compared to past generations. It's easier people are confused with different information compared to past generations. There can be miscommunications because information is communicated from multiple sources. There can be misunderstandings. There can be more unknowns. There can be more don't knows or "dk" because today's generation knows more about everything. They happen. They happen more often today compared to past generations. We're humans. We make mistakes.

I accept the misinformation, misunderstandings, and miscommunications. I'm not angry when they happen. What am I angry? I'm angry at the lack of effort to update people with the newest information. I'm angry at the lack of effort to correct misunderstandings. I'm angry at the lack of effort to prevent future miscommunications. I'm angry at the lack of sincere effort. I'm angry at the lack of honest effort. I'm angry at the lack of effort to solve problems. I'm angry at the lack of effort to learn from the mistakes.

Desire is more important than intelligence. Motivation is more important than knowledge. The intelligence follows. The knowledge follows. There must be motivation to learn from mistakes. Don't take life for granted.

Tuesday, November 19, 2019

Winning Can Solve Problems

Winning is good. The winning feeling is happiness. The two sentences are the clearest definition when a person or a group of people win. I elaborate more on winning. Redemption is winning. Earn successes are winning. Problems can be solved winning. We see winning. Winning clears the mind. Forgiveness can happen. The picture becomes clear. The problem is solved. The connections are established or connecting-the-dots are connected. Winning is powerful. Winning is motivating. Winning is a reminder live the present moment. Time will tell when the winning stops. The winning eventually stops. No problem. Life is not perfect. Take a breath. Reset. Begin a new path to win again.

Winning attracts attention. Winning opens opportunities. Winning is earned correcting past mistakes. Winning can justify sacrifices. Conversations begin. The naysayers and the critics are silenced. Winning lets bygones be bygones. Hope for good luck, favorable timing, courageous chances, and many opportunities. The next winner may be you.

Saturday, November 16, 2019

Top Ten Wisdom Acquired In 2006 I Failed To Follow

2006 was a good year. 2007 was one of my two worst years. The 2007 highlights working at Cisco and buying my first car overshadowed the many lowlights. What if I followed through my 2006 wisdom acquired in 2007? There could have been fewer lowlights.

I reacquired, relearned, and rediscovered my 2006 wisdom years later. They started on the day I realized I must grow up on Sat Oct 4, 2008. I never forget these top ten wisdom. I practice them daily. Today's top ten is another reminder how I live a good life.

I blogged one dream titled Philosophy 98: Innovating Life on Mar 12, 2006. I dreamed I taught a philosophy class at a junior college. Students were required to read Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki and How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Rich Dad Poor Dad teaches how the rich people become rich. How to Win Friends and Influence People teaches human relations skills. I dreamed Philosophy 98: Innovating Life for the second time replacing How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie with Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. Outliers argues timing and luck are the reasons why some people succeed. I approved my second dream using Rich Dad Poor Dad and Outliers as the required reading.

Here are the top ten wisdom acquired in 2006 I failed to follow. I followed them years later.

10. Life Sucks? Why Live? on Mar 16, 2006 and I Wonder on Aug 24, 2006. Timing is everything. I remind myself the two blogs. I'm alone, unemployed, and without money. I continue fighting the struggles. Doing nothing solves no problems. I might as well keep going. The I Wonder blog said maybe the next big break comes tomorrow, next week, or next month. I keep going hoping for the next big break.

9. Whoever Though Of The Word “Rush” Lived A Short Life on Jun 11, 2006. Don't rush success. Take it slow. Increment.

8. Do You Want To Be My Friend? on Apr 15, 2006. The last paragraph is the wisdom acquired. There are some people I don't get along with. There are some people I don't have a connection. I don't waste my time with these people. I stay away from these people.

7. Nothing Lasts Forever Which Includes Curses and Bad Luck on Jan 2, 2006. Nothing lasts forever. Curses are meant to be broken. Hope for the best. On the other hand, some people live life with many bad breaks and bad timing. It's life. Some people have lots of good luck. Some people have lots of bad luck.

6. Find The Misinformation and Misunderstandings First on Sep 27, 2006. Don't stress out on the person with the misinformation. Don't get angry over a misunderstanding. Misinformation happens. Misunderstandings happen. Seek first to understand. Correct the source. I'm angry when people don't correct the problem.

5. Second Blog Entry: Going With The Flow On A Bad Work Day on Jan 7, 2006. Go with the flow. I rediscovered the wisdom during Winter Quarter 2010 at De Anza College.

4. Full Circle on Mar 6, 2006. Life goes full circle. Whatever you do today affects you tomorrow. Life finds a way to reward you tomorrow when doing something good today. Life finds a way to punish you tomorrow when doing something bad today. For example, I failed to refresh my job skills during my down time at one of my contract jobs. I watched YouTube videos. Life punishes me today being unemployed taking additional self-training time refreshing my skills instead of learning new skills. Job searching is a full-time job. I learn new skills such as Python and Power BI. I refresh my existing skills such as Excel and SQL.

3. Keep Fun In Check on Feb 26, 2006. Something bad happens when I have too much fun. I lose my sense of awareness. I lose my clear thinking. Control everything as much as possible work, rest, and play.

2. Breakfast Is The Most Important Meal Of The Day on May 17, 2006. What if I ate a proper breakfast in 2007 and before Sat Oct 4, 2008 daily? The obvious answers are more focused, learned more, less chances getting sick, more gym workouts, and never unemployed.

1. Time Will Tell on Jan 28, 2006. The late Steve Jobs said it best, "You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something--your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life."

In my words, time is the ultimate judge.

Summary

10. Keep fighting the struggles. There's nothing else to do.
9. Take your time. Increment.
8. Spend time with good people. Avoid bad people.
7. Nothing lasts forever.
6. Focus on correcting misinformation and misunderstandings themselves.
5. Go with the flow.
4. Life goes full circle. What you do today affects you tomorrow.
3. Keep fun in check. Stay focus even while having fun.
2. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day.
1. Trust what you do today is good tomorrow. Time is the ultimate judge.

Wednesday, November 13, 2019

Relax, Trust Intuition, Stay In Context

There are too many overprotective people. There are too many people worrying too much. There are too many people too anxious. There are too many people too stressed. Most of the stress is unnecessary. More people must relax. We must go back to trust our intuition.

Why overprotective? We may blame too many lawsuits on even small mistakes. We may blame overpopulation or overcrowding. We may blame people refusing additional personal responsibility. We may blame political correctness on people misinterpretations. Communications are taking out of context. In particular, I have a better understanding why more parents are overprotecting their children. Overprotecting their children is easier parenting in today's complex information age. It was acceptable children visit neighbors' homes for cookies and milk on the fly decades ago. We may blame the media overhyping crimes such as random kidnappings and missing children.

I dreamed I was superintendent of a public school. I was elected because the district wanted someone with an out of the box thinking. The district wanted a superintendent without an education background. A parent called me out being gender discriminate during a public school board meeting. I responded with a general statement to the entire room. I said stop interpreting my communications out of context. I'm not racist. There is no bigotry. I don't discriminate. I'm tough. I'm fair. I treat everyone equally. I'm open. I'm a good listener. Anyone being the political correctness police get a life. I reset the timer for the parent to restart her speech to the board.

Finally, I interviewed for an undefined length data analyst contract with a networking company in Campbell, CA. There was a phone interviewed. I passed. There was a person-to-person interview with a co-worker and the hiring manager. I passed. The hiring manager gave me an Excel test. I passed. The contractor agency conducted reference checks. I was the only candidate. Days passed. I saw the same position at the company's website. The company choose to hire the contractor internally. A too conservative higher-up manager must override the hiring manager's decision to hire me. The job candidate must have all the requirements for which I didn't have. A waste of time. A waste of effort.