Sunday, July 15, 2018

Some Men Who Are Losers Makes All Men Losers

There is a common knowledge two people in a serious relationship both people should be winners. In particular, a woman should date a good man. The definition of a good man is subjective. Every woman has a different definition who they want to date. Intuitively, a good man is smart, kind, strong, courageous, open, and practices good social skills. Women must avoid loser men. Women must avoid dating a loser hoping he becomes a winner. If the woman is dating a potential winner, then the wait time for a loser to become a winner is subjective. Almost all losers continue to be losers. It's sad. Read my Top Ten Men Truths men I wrote on Jan 2017 to acquire knowledge how to be a winner. A winner attracts people.

Moreover, the attitudes dating men are changing. A kind, polite, and nice man were the top qualities to date. A man with a job, drives his own car, and lives with freedom are added to the top qualities.

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Tuesday, July 10, 2018

Trust Time And Trust Life

Today's blog is a simple philosophy on time and on life. Maybe everything happens for a reason. Maybe every event happens for a reason. Maybe every moment happens for a reason. Everyone in the world and everything in the world interacts. There are connections. What one person does make a difference. What one person does affect another person. What one person does may be insignificant one day. Tomorrow may be the day what one person does affect someone or something else significantly. The reason is found in time. The answer comes soon.

The world has been complicated. More time is required to make the complicated easier. Ironic. Take life one day at a time. Increment. Patience is a virtue.

Some people have good moments. Some people have bad moments. We hope for the best. The two things every living being must trust are life and time. Nobody wins 100% of the time. There are winners. There must be losers for winners. It's life. We hope none of us are the losers. Trust life and trust time we become winners. Never give up. Give hard work time. Stay strong. Stay courageous. Accept life is unfair. We hope at the minimum we're winners at least 51% of the time. Some people are losers at least 51% of the time.

In addition, every living being must trust timing. A person met his or her future spouse at the right place at the right time. A car is hit at the wrong place at the wrong time by another car failing to stop at a red signal light. Every living being must trust luck. People who play board games understand luck is a factor. People who follow sports understand luck is a factor.

There are four things every living being must trust: life, time, timing, and luck. The definitions of winners and losers are subjective of course. In conclusion, life is not perfect. We hope tomorrow brings a perfect moment. We hope life brings a big break to change our lives.

Side note: It's okay to eat a chocolate on occasion.

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Saturday, July 07, 2018

Eat Your Apples

A random thought appeared in my head. I remember my freshmen year in high school during the lunch hour a few of my friends purchased school lunches. The lunches included a fruit. My friends threw away the fruit in the basketball courts. It was wrong my friends wasted fruit. It was wrong my friends littered the high school campus. There have been people struggling financially to provide food for themselves and/or their families. The problem existed decades ago when I was a teenager. The problem exists today. I feel sad and I feel angry thinking about the high school moment. Wasting food is a pet peeve. Don't waste food.

Update On A Past Blog

One negative going back to school attending De Anza College in 2009-2011 was missing business intelligence or BI. I recently learned BI started in 2010. I wonder if I didn't attend De Anza College, then I introduced myself to BI. I'm catching up what I missed job skill wise learning BI. De Anza College was my 2010 moment of the year from my blog Moment Of The Years on Jan 2016. Here's a link to my De Anza College review: My All De Anza Review Blog on Dec 2012.

Also, I shared a story finding my wife from my blog I Need More Stories on Apr 2018. I'm behind in life. I add learning job skills to catch up what I missed.

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Tuesday, July 03, 2018

My Two Grandfathers

I washed pots and pans one day inspired me to blog my grandfather on my mom's side. My family visited my grandfather's house when I was a child. He consistently kept his house clean and organized. He cleaned all messes. He washed all dishes. He set up the dining room table before the meals. He cooked all the meals. Anything disorganized was reorganized by him. He had all the free time in the world for which he could behave lazy. He made a choice to think of his guests. He committed his home was comfortable for all of his family members. I look forward to maintain my residence like my grandfather which is clean and organized. I look forward to welcome all guests to my residence feeling comfortable.

Everyone visited the cemetery when one of my uncle's family visited for the 2017 Christmas holiday inspired me to blog my grandfather on my dad's side. My grandfather was average intelligent. On the other hand, his financial knowledge was above average. He set up my father and my two uncles never worry about money problems. He taught his three sons financial education which includes investments, savings, and discretion spending. I repeat. He taught his three sons financial education. His family was financially stable. His future family is financially stable. I promise my grandfather I invest wisely, save intelligently, and spend discretionally. I promise my grandfather I continue my financial education to live financially stable. I take none of my grandfather's financial stability for granted.

My two grandfathers worked hard to take care of their families. Much respect. Much recognition. Much appreciation.

Update On A Past Blog

I was sick with allergies and coughs on Jan 2018 and Apr 2018. My mouth infection was Angular Cheilitis on Apr-May 2018. I wrote a blog The Best Life [Timeout] Or Distraction Is Being Sick on Nov 2012. My Jan 2018 sickness I took a short timeout. On the other hand, my Apr 2018 sickness I took a full distraction. The recovery for Jan 2018 was longer than Apr 2018. I should have taken a full timeout in Jan 2018. No timeout or distraction was needed for my Angular Cheilitis. I took a full timeout when I was an impatient at O'Connor Hospital needing two surgeries on Apr 2017. The first surgery removed gallstones or Endoscopic Retrograde Cholangio Pancreatography (ERCP). The second surgery removed my gallbladder or Laparoscopic Cholecystectomy.

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Saturday, June 30, 2018

Throwback Blog: FYI, Parents You Are Teachers, Too

Blogger’s Note: Throwback blogs are blogs from my past. I start posting past blogs reflecting what I wrote. It's like my "A Second Look" blogs for which I give myself feedback.

Today's throwback blog is titled FYI, Parents You Are Teachers, Too in Jul 2009. Good timing for parents raising children. Summer vacation began weeks ago. It's a good time for parents to teach their children which includes keeping their brains active for the next school year. Use it or lose it. Also, the blog is a reminder parents must find time to teach their children despite long working hours. We live in the information age. More jobs require more than 40 hours during a work week. There is no excuse parents not teaching their children.


Parents, it's tough to raise children in the fast pace way of living. In middle June, two twin sisters fought in front of my house. One of the sisters alleged their father was abusive. I don't know who's telling the truth. But, wow!!! In addition, the recession is making financial decisions tough for struggling families.

Parents, find time to teach the soft skills schools don't teach. Schools teach the reading, writing, and math academic education. Schools don't teach manners, computers, communication skills, ability to deal with others, and physical fitness. Also, schools don't teach dancing, sewing, cooking, singing, fixing cars, yoga, and basket weaving. Furthermore, schools don't teach positive attitudes, responsibility, earning, innovating infinitely ^__^, trying new restaurants, visiting new places, welcoming failures and mistakes, and finding who your kids are. Avoiding teaching the soft skills because of long work hours is inexcusable. You're the parents, you signed the contract to raise and teach the children the moment they're born.

My parents failed to teach me the soft skills and the life skills. I forgive them! I'm taking responsibility and taking action to correct their mistakes and catch up. I have a long way to go. I'm late learning what I should have I have learned a long time ago. I'm growing up, and that's good to realize now instead of later.

All of my friends and classmates in college agreed general education classes are a waste of time and waste of money. I believe college students need to take classes in soft skills—skills useful when they live their lives in the real world. Students pick the skills. The skills include first aid, cooking, car maintenance, basic PC computer skills, sewing, palates, and telling jokes. Science, humanities, liberal arts are good to learn. In today's world, who cares if someone knows the periodic table. I rather know ballroom dancing and cooking scrambled eggs =)

Side Note: Another sign of the recession when retail stores sells back to school supplies a week after 4th of July.

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Sunday, June 24, 2018

Reached The Top Innovating Infinitely

I ask myself the following question, "Did I reach my peak innovating my life?" My quick answer is no. My long answer is almost yes. I never stop innovating my life. There is more to learn. I must learn more to live a good life. I must learn more to earn freedom. More work is required to innovate more. More work is required to receive the returns. More time is required to continue getting better. Further, I must find something new. I must think deeper. I must work harder intelligently. Innovating infinitely was easy the first times around. The returns were immediate. The effort was easier. Innovating infinitely is hard today. The returns are later. The effort is harder.

Similarly, I realized I must grow up on Sat Oct 4, 2008. I changed my life to be a true adult. The costs were cheap. The returns were immediate. The changes were easy. I increase the number of friends. I found new hobbies such as hiking, reading fiction books, and ballroom dancing. I created a new gaming PC. I purchased new clothes. I have been catching up what I missed in my youth.

The growing up continues today. The innovate infinitely continues today. The costs are expensive; e.g., I upgraded my gaming PC to a desktop PC for which the upgrade costs is more expensive than a new built PC at a computer store. Another example is seeing new places outside my home. I'm learning new job skills such as Python which is both harder to learn and require more time than reviewing Excel and SQL.

It's easy when a person starts a new job, a person learns new skills, or a person meets new people. The returns are immediate. The costs are cheap. The efforts are easy. Time passes. There are more responsibilities in the job. Skills are advancing to a difficult tier. More time is required to maintain existing relationships and continue meeting new people. The returns are delayed. The costs are expensive. The efforts are hard.

It's ironic some tasks get easier the more involved with quicker returns and some tasks get harder the more involved with delayed returns. Examples of tasks getting easier are playing football, playing games, cooking, driving a car, and reading. Examples of tasks getting harder are programming, relationships, medical care, automotive technology, and television shows. The following is based on my intuition: anything technology or a business gets harder as each gets complex or grows.

In short and in many instances, the closer we reach the peak, more time, more costs, more effort, more research, more practice, more mistakes, and more frustrations are inevitable to achieve another goal.

Update On A Past Blog

Sir Paul McCartney appeared on The Late Late Show with James Corden's Carpool Karaoke Paul McCartney Carpool Karaoke. McCartney shared past history and his band sang at one pub The Beatles used to play. The Beatles song "Let It Be" appeared number one in my Top Ten Favorite Beatles Songs, Top Ten Life Lessons From The Beatles, Top Ten Songs That Cheers Me Up Updated, and Top Ten Songs That Cheers Me Up lists.

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Sunday, June 17, 2018

Raymond Mar One Liners

Muscle & Fitness July/August 2017 issue interviewed Arnold Schwarzenegger titled "Arnold" by Peter McGough. The interview inspired me to write one liners reflecting me. There is no particular chronological order. I write anything I thought my mind.

The first time I realized the importance of physical fitness is watching Sesame Street. There were skits promoting exercise. I become consistent working out at the gym decades later.

My first laptop was a Dell Inspirion 8600 in 2005. I saved $800 because the model became a closeout sale. My second laptop was a HP Compaq 8510p in 2007 for which I use today. I upgraded the RAM and installed a SSD. I don't play video games anymore. The 8510p is perfect for Office, browsing the web, and watching DVDs.

I was lonely in my childhood. I failed to take advantage of being lonely. I goofed off. I was weird. I'm lonely today. I'm taking advantage because I'm working hard to catch up what I missed before I realized I must grow up. For example, I'm learning new skills, working out at the gym four days a week, and visiting places I never visited before. I'm preparing myself for freedom.

I realized I must grow up on Saturday October 4, 2008. My life changed since the day. I'm an adult. I'm catching up what I missed in my 20s which should have made me stronger, smarter, kinder, and wiser, and make mistakes, and learning from my mistakes.

My first career goal was a high school math teacher. I'm happy I'm not a teacher today. There are too much politics. Gone are the old school teaching of drills, repetition, and self-discovery.

Steve Jobs is my most respected person. I read his biography by Walter Isaacson twice. Jobs knew what the f**k he was doing. I can't think of anyone today matching Jobs' genius.

Goodbye to anime, video games, baseball cards, and past friends. Thank you all for the memories! Never say never. In particular, an event can lead me back to my past friends.

I never say goodbye to books, board games, cooking, hiking, and working out at the gym. I miss ballroom dancing, daily commutes, meeting new people, and creating new circle of friends. Never say never. Anything can happen which changes my life.

My daily rules of living: 1) Don't criticize, condemn, and complain. 2) Don't act like a jerk or bitch. 3) Always speak calmly and be calm. 4) Don't daydream when driving. 5) Keep your head up high . . . look at their cute face when talking. 6) Breath with your nose and stand up straight. 7) *removed 06/17/17* 8) Let me think. Be discrete. 9) Welcome the roller coaster life. 10) Back in time and front and present. Number 7 was "Have faith. Believe in yourself" for those curious.

If you discover something new every day, then you're living life. Big or small any discovery is a discovery. Hope one discovery leads to a big life change. Realizing discoveries is a sign of self-awareness. Self-awareness helps you meet new people. Self-awareness helps you answer a common interview question, "Tell me something you discovered recently."

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