Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Throwback Blog: Read Books For Your Life

Blogger’s Note: Throwback blogs are blogs from my past. I start posting past blogs reflecting what I wrote. It's like my "A Second Look" blogs for which I give myself feedback.

Today's throwback blog is titled Read Books For Your Life in Oct 2011. I blogged my opinion people must find time to read books. There are too much leisure activities requiring little brain power; moreover, some television shows people lose IQ or make people dumber. One advantage not owning cable is watching little television. Reading books is one of my top leisure activities. Reading books keep my brain sharp.

It's never too late to introduce a new hobby reading books. I started reading in 2002. I see myself reading books in my 90s. Some of my genres include juvenile, science fiction, erotica, and classic literature. I exclude romance, politics, science, and biography genres. The biography exception is Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson. I'm a sucker to book recommendations from anyone. Turn off the electronics. Tune out the daily life. Read a book.

One of my childhood regrets is I didn’t read outside school. I watched too much television. I’m happy and lucky I started reading books in 2002. I started to read business and investment books. In 2008, I started to read fiction books. I currently read fiction books including classic and juvenile with an occasional business book.

Most of us are busy and have little or no time to read. I have some understanding for the busy people. I have a suggestion for those who want to get back reading books. I have a suggestion for those who have no interest reading books and have the thought in the back of their minds they should read. I have a suggestion for those who have poor reading skills. My suggestion is read juvenile books. Start easy and start simple. There is no shame for adults reading books for 5th graders. I read juvenile books. If you feel comfortable reading an adult book later on, do it. Ernest Hemingway books are an easy adult level.

Reading is one of the best ways to keep your brain active. Reading newspapers and Where’s Waldo books don’t count. Go to a library and start reading. If you have to start reading Disney books, then do it. There are online stores and many bookstore selling used books at lower prices. Pick up a book, activate your brain, and read.


Sunday, August 20, 2017

Am I Achieving Independence? Should I Achieve Something Else?

I have been blogging I need independence. I must achieve being an independent adult. I have been living at home my entire life. Why? The answer is another conversation.

Is independence overrated? I question myself my next goals finding a job, moving out, living on my own, expanding my existing life, and finding a new life. There are some independent people better off living at home. These people are happier living at home. These people can't live independently. There is a full time worker, intelligent, yet self-centered with poor health lives at home with his or her parents. Should he or she move out to discover more about life? There is a middle aged person feeding stray cats three times a day, watches too much television, and eats processed foods living on his or her own. Maybe he or she should move back with his or her parents.

Should I Achieve Something Else? How About Freedom.

I experience frustrations achieving independence; for example, the job hiring system favors recent experience and relevant knowledge highest priorities and everything else lowest priority. I have been working hard achieving independence for years with little achievements. It's like my life is on the pause button on Raymond Mar's Blu-Ray.

Maybe I should achieve freedom. I'm free from conflicts. I'm free from hate. I'm free from grudges. I'm free from anger. I'm at peace with myself. I'm happy. I'm joyful. We say freedom when a work shift is over. We say freedom when a college quarter or semester is completed. We say freedom when a bad relationship is over. Freedom or independence? I expect follow up blogs to continue the discussion.


Saturday, August 19, 2017

Raymond Mar Act III. Act IV Coming Soon.

Blogger's note: Today's blog is posted at both Innovating Common Knowledge and Finding Raymond Mar.

I separate my life from the day I was born to today in three acts. Here they are below:

Act I: 34 Years As A Child (day I was born to Oct 3, 2008). My childhood was boring. My parents provided little guidance. They were too quiet. They were slow. They did have intelligence. Honestly speaking, they were not dumb. I learned more child life lessons watching Sesame Street. I have a small amount of childhood stories to share; likewise for my teenage years. I experienced a less than my share of typical teenage firsts such as first kiss, first date, first school dance, and first girlfriend. My high school years were 50% good and 50% bad for which some may argue I had a good high school life.

I failed to take advantage of living life in my 20s in the 1990s. The mistakes I failed to learn in my 20s caught up in my 30s. I didn't earn my successes. I wasn't responsible. I didn't meet new people. I didn't make new friends. I didn't learn new ideas. I didn't experience new experiences. I didn't seek new adventures. I failed to take advantage experimenting new ideas and trying new activities as a San Joe State University student. I took life for granted.

Act II: De Anza College (Oct 4, 2008 to Nov 19, 2013). I was a late bloomer. I was overdue for adulthood. I realized I must grow up on Sat Oct 4, 2008. The actions growing up paid off immediately. First, I forgave my parents for doing a poor job raising me as a child. I'm responsible for myself catching up what I missed in my young adult years. Second, I discovered new hobbies such as ballroom dancing thanks to my sister, hiking, reading fiction books, and listening to classic jazz. Third, I purchased a new mattress, new clothes, and built a new desktop personal computer thanks to my dad, gmontem, and Appu for guidance.

I took advantage of the Great Recession going back to college. I earned an AA degree in Accounting at De Anza College. I was satisfied I corrected some mistakes. I experienced what I should have experience when I attended San Jose State University; for example, I met new people and I made new friends. Furthermore, the time from the day I graduated at De Anza College to my first day at my new job I continued seeking new adventures and experiencing new experiences I should have done both during my 20s. I continue catching up what I missed today.

Act III: Lonely Soul (Nov 20, 2013 to day before independence date). I finally got a break working at a retail start-up. It was my first job since I lost my contract job back in Nov 2008. I was hired as a contractor in a networking company for six months after working at the retail start-up. I'm job searching, learning new job skills, and reviewing existing job skills. I pace myself with leisure reading books and watching movies. I stay in physical shape working out at the gym four to five days a week. I'm lonely most of each day.

It was time to say goodbye to people holding me behind. It was time to retire from anime. It was time to go on my own to find my independence. I don't know when I achieve independence. Independence can be tomorrow. Independence can be next month. Independence can be next year. I continue living the present life intelligently. I'm not watching TV eight hours a day. I'm doing what I feel is the best for me today. I'm doing what I feel is the best for me tomorrow. I'm open to new ideas. If I stop living, then I die.

Act IV: Independence (independence date). All of my successes. All of my failures. All of my frustrations. All of my experiences. All of my wisdom acquired. All of my mistakes and the lessons learned. One of these days I connect all of the above backwards to who I am in my future. My future is a strong, intelligent, and independent Raymond Mar. Grit, responsibility, hanging on, strength, courage, and earning my winnings pay off on the day I declare myself independent.


Monday, August 14, 2017

Be Patient, I Rescue My Loneliness And Other People's Loneliness

Some people say the world is lonely. I agree. Where are the good people in my life? Many lonely people ask the same question, too. I'm looking to create new circle of friends. My top priority is independence. The new circles of friends follow. I rescue myself and I rescue other people from loneliness when I achieve independence. I can be rescued before independence.

I want long-term good friends. I accept short-term, too. I appreciate social networks such as Facebook to keep in touch with people. Age is just a number. My definitions of good friends include being mature adults. Good friends are sociable. We converse intelligently. There is an attitude doing something new. Get up and do something, anything. We seek new experiences. We welcome new adventures. We support each other. We are tactfully open people with honestly. We laugh at our jokes. Each of us calls out others when we're wrong with discretion. Our learning never stops. Growing continues indefinitely.

I see myself living at my own residence when I achieve independence. I attract people to spend time with me. People ask me to spend time with them. All of our circles of friends enlarge. I share my hobbies, knowledge, and experiences. I hope my friends share their hobbies, knowledge, and experiences. I eliminate one lonely person one person at a time. I rescue loneliness both myself and others. They happen in my neighborhood, my apartment complex, social gatherings, my workplace, and being outdoors randomly meeting people.

Where are the lonely, unemployed, living with their parents people similar to George Costanza from Seinfeld? There are people in my situation. I'm not the only unique person. I can't find them. I welcome people with weak self-esteem if they're motivated to strengthen their self-esteem. Nobody lives a happy life being lonely.


Wednesday, August 09, 2017

Hate Yourself Today Only

Be negative. Be hateful. Dislike yourself. Hate your life. Do these today only. A common saying is be positive. The common cliques are like yourself, be true to yourself, and be who you are. Find something to like yourself. Find more to like yourself. Your good attributes defines your good character. Good things happen when you like yourself. Smile. You are you.

How come we don't talk about what we hate about ourselves with full honestly? Is the reason we say the easy solutions like yourself, be true to yourself, be who you are, etc., is we want to falsely convince ourselves nothing is wrong. We ignore our personal problems. Ignoring problems rarely work. How can we fix what's broken in ourselves when we can't honestly find what we hate about ourselves? It's ironic hating yourself can improve your life. How? You're a terrible person to yourself today. Criticize yourself today. I believe we can fix ourselves. A fix for one person may not work for another person. Each fix is different for each person.

What do you hate about you? Your looks? There's so much you can do. God gave your face. Control what you can control. New hair style. Improve your grooming or learn new grooming techniques. Try new makeup. Minimize eating processed foods. Exercise. Working out at the gym consistently slows aging. Relax. Stress speeds up aging. Change your appearance. Wear new clothes. Wear new glasses. Dress for success. Dress to attract people.

What else do you hate? Your job? If the answer is yes, then it's your responsibility to change hating your job to liking your job. Search for a new job. Find a new beginning at another company. Learn new job skills to start a new career. Seek support from co-workers. Take action to like your job. Start now.

I hope you understand the point of today's blog. Find what you need to improve your life by hating yourself. Make changes. I hate being overweight. Eat healthy. Get exercise. I hate being lonely. Learn new hobbies to find people with common interests. I hate being stupid. Learn new skills. Motivation and desire are more important than intelligence and high IQ. I hate being stressful. Get more sleep. Reduce responsibilities. I hate having too much work. Work intelligently. Create ways to complete responsibilities faster.

What do I hate today? I hate being unemployed. I job search two times a day every weekday. I'm learning new job skills which are currently Python and JavaScript. I'm reviewing existing job skills which are currently Excel, PowerPoint, and SQL. I hate being lonely most of the week. I'm preparing myself to move out to be independent. I invite people to my apartment for social activities. Moreover, I have more time to take care of myself living on my own. I have more time to seek new adventures. I have more time to experience new experiences. The adventures and experiences create new opportunities to meet new people and make new friends. My leisure activities prevent me from being a boring person. Nobody wants to be with a boring person. I workout at the gym, read books, cook, play board games, listen to music, watch movies, and write blogs. I want to share some of my hobbies with people.

Learning from failures and becoming successful learning from mistakes must be self-discovered. They can't be taught. Do the best you can. I'm doing the best I can to like myself tomorrow.


Saturday, August 05, 2017

Anything Better Than Duct Tape?

We have been looking for the next big idea every day. Getting better is good. Innovating infinitely is good. However, we must look for the next big idea intelligently. I believe we have been looking for the next big idea exhaustively. We're tired being informed someone invented a new idea. Is the new idea really new? Is the new idea going to change lives? Or is the new idea all marketing or all hype?

The next big idea mindset is with us all the time. We are over-inventing. It's like we're dumb we can't think of anything new today. We waste time finding something better all the time. If it isn't broken, then don't fix it. Does it need to be improved? Do you want to improve it? Fill in the question with similar adjectives such as improve, innovate, or change. Is the new idea a disguise over the existing idea? It's a judgment call.

If I'm a hiring manager interviewing for a job opening and the job candidate says he or she always improves daily, then I'm not hiring the job candidate. I don't want over-thinkers. I don't want analysis paralysis. I do want people who trust their intuition.

Sometimes old school is the best. Sometimes the old ways are the best. Go back in time to the core essentials. Go back in time to the early successes. Go back in time to the classics. They may be still the best today. Think back in time and front and present. Think is the old way still the best way and think is the old way needs a new way. It's a judgment call.


Wednesday, August 02, 2017

Life Gives People Lemons They Make Lemonade. Life Gives People Roses Yet Roses Have Thorns.

I dreamed briefly I was homeless. I respond to today's blog title in two parts. The reader takes anything from any or all parts.

1. I'm doing the best I can. (I'm aware I'm blogging another doing the best I can blog entry.) How do I know? I know tomorrow, next month, next six months, or next year. I continue moving forward. Something comes up. I don't sit around waiting patiently doing nothing. Can I do more? Yes. How do I know? I hope for self-discovery I do better.

2. Life today is life today. Most of life is out of our control. We do our best to control as much as we can. Sometimes we chuckle. Sometimes we laugh. Sometimes we smile. Sometimes we cry. Sometimes we shout angrily. Sometimes we sigh with frustration. We pause for a moment to express our feelings. We move forward thereafter. Don't take life too serious. Don't take life too lightly. Embrace everything good and bad.