Throwback Blog: Something New To Me

Blogger’s Note: Throwback blogs are blogs from my past. I start posting past blogs reflecting what I wrote. It's like my "A Second Look" blogs for which I give myself feedback.

Today's throwback blog is titled Something New To Me in Aug 2007. I shared a new experience unfortunately I'm still new today. People have been helping me become a better person. They share their experiences. They teach me new knowledge. They correct my mistakes. I'm having difficulty paying back or paying it forward. The best is utilizing the experiences and knowledge daily as if I remember the people by doing them; in other words, I don't waste their efforts they spent their time for me.

Also, I continue feeling uncomfortable when people thank me for my help. Perhaps one reason is I rarely help other people. I have little experience when people show appreciation for me.

I hope times change my life when I achieve independence. Independence is a sign I'm strong, smart, kind, and wise. I want to share my experiences, to teach new knowledge, and to correct mistakes to people who were in my situation as an adult catching up what I missed in my 20s and early 30s. I hope to receive appreciation sincerely.

Since 2006, something new has been happening to me. It's a new experience I continue to understand and to learn. It's a new experience some people acquired at a younger age. It's a new experience I sometimes forget how to respond, how to follow, and how to model from those who do it naturally. The experience is being thanked by others and appreciated by others for who I am and what I do.

My family has been helping me out. They pay me back for food and groceries. They rarely paid me in the past, and, honestly, I never expected them since we're family. I always say forget about paying me. Recently, my family has been consistent in paying me back. Also, my parents have been letting me go out more often. My family had lots of family events and I participated in them in the past. There have been fewer family events today so it's good timing. My family has been opening up trying new ideas and ventures. Maybe they are taking my example of living more active and trying something new attitude *hee, hee* And my family seems to be talking to me more. It's mostly small talk. It's just that they are saying more. I think my family is appreciating what I have done with appropriate action.

My friends welcome my presence and they thank me for being part of their lives. I receive appreciation in the form of constant and sincere thanks. I receive items such as CDs with mp3. I receive information I use at a future date. I receive answers for my questions, even when I think my questions are dumb. I receive money to help me buy food and items for special events. I receive welcomes when I hang out with my friends. By being with my friends, I become a better person. They share their experience, share their adventures, and share their friendship with me. And I become a better person. I'm learning a lot from them and my life has become less dull XD Yeah, my life is still dull . . . yet I see bright and happy days ahead. I really thank my friends for being a part of me, a part of a better me.

Before 2006, I thanked others and I appreciated others for helping me be who I am today, for being my friend, and for being someone who welcomed my presence and my friendship. Before 2006, I performed the extra effort, helped out a little more, and extended my assistance to my family and friends. Many times, I received no clear appreciation such that I ask myself, "Am I important to my circle of friends?" Or "Am I really helping my family?" Furthermore, I never received clear cut signals from my family and friends I'm welcomed, I'm appreciated, and I'm part of their lives. My confidence was low when I met new people, hung out with my limited friends, and participated in family activities. I felt unimportant. Was I a good person to be with or a pain in the ass?

To repeat, I continue to understand and to learn how to behave when I'm being thanked and I'm being appreciated for my actions, my attitude, my knowledge, and my friendship to my family and my friends. All the experiences are making be a better person. I'm innovating myself. By being with my family, my friends, and meeting new people, I want to learn who they are and I want them to learn who I am. I'm not used to being on the receiving end. I have always given my thanks and appreciation.

Make sure you show your appreciation to you family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, strangers, anyone who took their time, spent their money, shared their experience, and/or give information such as referrals, tips, and street directions to you. Never assume the person is appreciated. Tell them, show them your appreciation. Do some action. Say "Thank You" with sincerity. Return the favor at a later time. Treat the person or persons out for a meal. Offer something the person or persons might be interested. Do something, do some action to recognize and appreciate their assistance appropriately.

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The Green Steno Notebook 1

The picture above is the notebook I acquired on the first day of my new white collar job. I wrote notes during my job training. I wrote other notes, reminders, and knowledge thereafter. I share many of them. Here is the first blog.

*Jan 2009. Be patient buying clothes because I shop for the best deal. Also, buy new clothes on vacation. Create a memory and an emotional attachment.

*Mar 2009. 60 Minutes interviewed Harry Markopolos who informed the Securities and Exchange Commission about Bernard Madoff The Man Who Knew

*May 2009. Shopped at REI's Anniversary sale for the first time. I purchased a new daytime backpack, hiking clothes, and hiking boots.

*June 2009. I bench pressed 200lbs.

*July 2009. Ninja III: The Domination movie is the about a woman became possessed by a evil ninja. Sho Kosugi is the lead actor. Ninja Domination 3 - Scene 1

Purchased family's first Dyson vacuum cleaner.

I heard a Katy Perry song for the first time. It was "Hot N Cold."

Syndicate is a MS-DOS game created in 1993. Wiki link

Land's End Trail in San Francisco, CA. I have not hiked the trail as of the blog post.

*Aug 2009. Cadillac Ranch - Bruce Springsteen - Paris 85

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There Is Always A Cost

Some people underestimate the cost for their actions. Everything we do. Everything we say. Everything we react. Everything. There is a cost. There can be a sacrifice. Something is given up. There can be an exchange. Sometimes an exchange is unequal. For instance, I'm giving up my social life saying goodbye to many people for independence. We hope our actions the costs pay off at the end resulting in success. Also, success is achieved with good luck, fortunate timing, strength to endure pain, courage to accept suffering, wisdom to learn from mistakes, and working hard intelligently.

Nothing is free. There is always a cost.

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A Praise For Small Cities

I was in a small city on Mon Jul 3, 2017. The city prepared for their Fourth Of July parade. Temporary no parking signs were placed on the parade route. Homes decorated their exteriors with the USA pride red, white, and blue. I ate Chinese for lunch at a hole in the wall ma and pa restaurant.

The experience gave me a better understanding some people prefer to live in small cities or small towns. There is a closeness. There is a togetherness. The city is a family. The small population is content paying more for goods and services. Small businesses are a yes. Big box retails are a no. Peace, quiet, and clean air are a yes. Loud noises, crime, and urban crowds are a no.

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Instant Bullets Blog Jul 7, 2017

*The pursuit of happiness or the pursuit of dreams. Be prepared for pain and sorrow. Also, be prepared for sacrifice. They're part of achieving many life goals including a new job, marriage, independence, and a championship. People are going to be screwed. People are going to be hurt.

*Back in time and front and present. Some people are thinking of the next great ideas. Great! However, sometimes the old school way or the old approach is still the best today. Ask the questions, "is the time worth improving something? Or is improving something just to improve something?" It's a judgment call. If it still works today, then maybe there is no need for a change.

I may consider "back in time and front out present." I believe the answer is no.

*Breyers Thin Mints ice cream. People who need a Girl Scouts Thin Mints fix eat the Breyers ice cream Thin Mints flavor. Strong mint flavor.

*Blue Earth to green and red. Mother Earth with the blue oceans is changing colors to ugly green and bad red. The green color represents money. More people are thinking money mindset. More people are greedy. The red color represents stress. More people are stressing out in today's fast pace green and red planet. Are more people getting greedy? Moreover, I've seen family and friends change for the worse such as physical appearance, emotional fatigue, and financial struggles.

*Have you donated, sold, and/or gave away for free CDs, DVDs, and Blu-Rays? If the answer is yes, then you have changed. You have grown up, wise up, changed tastes, and developed new interests. Also, you prevented hoarding. We live in the information age more people are listening to music digitally or on the internet.

For instance, I donated all my Family Guy DVD box sets. I also sold anime DVDs I either watched once or never opened because I didn't have time to watch.

*Cursive handwriting. When was the last time you wrote cursive? I'm sad some school districts eliminated cursive handwriting in their grade school curriculum. I'm going back in time writing in my cursive handwriting.

*Exercise benefits a human's outside such as physical appearance and delayed aging. Exercise also benefits a human's inside such as the heart, lungs, and brain. Watch the video on the benefits of the brain WHY Exercise is so Underrated (Brain Power & Movement Link).

*Costco is my first pharmacy. I purchased two bottles of eye drops to relieve my dry eyes at Target. I have thought Costco sold eye care liquid products for contact lenses only. I'm wrong. Costco sells eye drops for dry eyes. I can pay a few dollars more for four bottles of eye drops. Costco is my first choice to purchase over the counter drugs.

*What is worse? Being unloved or being lost in the woods? The last bullet is from the classic Peanuts comic printed on Sun Jul 2, 2017.


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Past Comic Strips Posted Jul 2017

I photocopied comic strips I read at work or read at home decades ago, or downloaded from the comic strip's website. Here are some of my favorite comic strips I took a picture on my camera. I post more later. Enjoy!

Credits: Dilbert by Scott Adams, Foxtrot by Bill Amend, Garfield by Jim Davis, Luann by Greg Evans, and The Duplex by Glenn McCoy.

























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I Blog, You Comment Jul 1, 2017

Happy Fourth Of July. Take advantage of the extended weekend to take a deep breath. Find time to take a deep breath during your time off for those who work during the extended weekend. Relax!

Many people praised my Top Ten Men Truths. Some boys never become men because they ignore the truths to be strong male human beings. Some adult males continue living without motivation to become men. They're big boys or big babies.

Number 3 (timing and luck) is my favorite. Some people live a successful life in part because life went their way. --Matt Davis, Rockville, MD

I showed my husband and my two high school sons your top ten truths. I hope the three of them learned something from them. Thanks! --Patsy Hawkins, Fort Walton Beach, FL

I see pictures on all my social media the 20s men are not men. They're naive living beings walking around with no care. I'm sad to say there are middle school aged boys with more maturity. --Clifford Peterson, Royersford, PA

I'm 51. Your top ten truths should be printed on every school textbook to teach the life realities. BTW, I my first kissing a girl I was 12. --Leroy Griffin, Jamaica Plain, MA

Enough with the political correctness. Let's get back to old school teachings. Tell the truth. Speak it straight. No cuteness. Life doesn't care about being nice. Life rewards those who live their lives to the fullness. --Jacky Smith, Encino, CA

Teachers, neighbors, and my fellow mom friends teach their children and students the inside is more important than the outside. Media the same. However, I agree with your number 2 inside and outside are equally important. I'm teaching my children a one up. Inside is important. So is outside. --Lois Franklin, Collegeville, PA

The losers have no motivation at all. They don't care about life. These men are not men. They are boys. Overgrown, overweight boys. They live life the wrong way being patient hoping life goes in their way ignoring their problems. They complain and take it out on others. I bet a million dollars these boys never kissed a woman. --Frances Tate, Baltimore, MD

I compared access to technology when I was a child and access to technology for today's children. I didn't have internet, cell phones, and a tablet when I was a child. Reflecting And Connecting Both Technology And My Childhood explains.

Many people, children and adults, are not using today's technology correctly. It seems, and it's my opinion, people are using technology to escape from today's stressful life. --Kelly Cole, South El Monte, CA

Technology is working. We can look up information quickly instead of going to the library. We're meeting new people outside our cities, states, and even countries. I'm embracing technology. Today's children have it made living the best life. Better than my life in the 1970s. --Mable Byrd, Lake In The Hills, IL

I agree technology is not connecting us closer. Technology is an escape. People are using technology to ignore their problems. They're not solving their own problems. --Ling Su, Onalaska, WI

When I was a child, I call my friends in the neighborhood. We socialize with each other making a mess in the backward, spraying our bodies with the water hose on hot days, and eating lots of cookies. What are today's children doing? Video games, YouTube, email. I have friends says my son. Have they visit our us. Na, that's okay, we're connecting with our phones and tablets. *shakes head* --Sonja Watkins, Conway, SC

I understood a life lesson some people disagree. I used to believe knowledge is more important than desire. I wrote Motivated To Do What I'm Doing motivation is more important than knowledge or "I will" is more important than "I know".

I'm a high school math teacher. Most of my classes I'm assigned are remedial. I see my students' faces during the beginning of the new school year they're dumb they don't know math. I have a poster saying willpower is more important than knowledge. I remind them routinely. At the end of the school year, some students' math knowledge improved the next year they're take normal math classes. How do these students graduate to normal math classes? Do they become smart? Yes, in a way. The correct answer is motivation. They were motivated to learn. It's hard initially. It's easier as the school year continued. --Sonja Watkins, Conway, SC

Many business owners we're not smart people. They had the desire to succeed. They were not smart in school. Their desire was the reason they're business owners, and that's smart people. --Eula George, Wilmington, MA

Book knowledge. Who gives a s**t! Anyone can learn something from a book. If you have the motivation to fill in the gaps what's missing in your life, then you're smarter than the 4.0 student. --Viola Torres, Japan
Yeah, I was like you in college. Motivation didn't help me study and score high exam scores. I needed the knowledge to study. Or I feel dumb taking the test. It seemed my bosses and executives were not smart. How did they become such high ranking people? One reason is common. Promote the least effective employee to do the least damage to a department for daily operations. The truth is my bosses and executives are motivated to learn, and the motivation impresses the high ups to promote them to managers and executives. Knowledge is a factor. Motivation is a higher factor. --Lee Fowler, New York, NY

People submitted feedback expressing sympathy when I became anti-social for the first time in my life. Much appreciated! I shared what happen in Anti-Social For The First Time.

Anti-social is temporary. I experience it many times. --iluvcookies, via email

My husband and I accept each of us wanting to be lonely. Anti-social. Leave me alone. Nobody bother me. One may think wives want alone time. Not for us. --Billie Knight, Staten Island, NY

Everything is going to be okay. I'm a regular reader. You're working hard for success. --Orville Bishop, Hammonton, NJ

Your blogs have recently a common theme: independence, finding a job, learning new skills, exercising. The anti-social feeling is telling you to stop for now. Get away. Do something different. --Jon Reyes, Fairhope, AL

If you have to take drugs for depression, then I worry about you. The anti-depression drugs [are] full of crap. It's the drugs companies profiting from people's sorrows. --Esther Davidson, Springboro, OH

It's all in the brain. Perhaps there's something in the brain causing anti-social. But since it's the first time in your life, no worries. If it happens many times, see a doctor.--Holly Harper, Ontario, CA

Don't worry. Everyone experiences some sort of emotional problems. Depression, anti-social, loneliness, fatigue. We're all humans. Take it easy.--Leo Copeland, Minneapolis, MN

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