There is a common knowledge in dating don't date a loser. Don't date a nobody. Don't date a boring person. There is a common knowledge in marriages don't marry a loser. Don't marry a nobody. Don't marry a boring person. A common conversation in a circle of friends is an incompatible couple. The couple is not a match. The relationship is toxic. Why is person A dating person B? Why is person A married to person B? Person B is boring. Or person B is too nice. Or person B is abusive. Or person B is manipulative. Why is person A tolerating misery from person B? What is the person B summary? The answer is poor self-esteem.
My knowledge is people don't date boring people before today. Boring people are always single. People rather date exciting people than boring people. Most people agree with the statement. People rather date people with a "bad boy" attitude or "bad girl" attitude. The people dating people with a "bad boy" attitude or "bad girl" attitude can be misleading. The "bad boy" or "bad girl" abuses and manipulates their boyfriend or girlfriend. The "bad boy" or "bad girl" tricks or coerces their boyfriend or girlfriend to stay in the relationship; for example, the "bad boy" or "bad girl" intimidates the boyfriend or girlfriend he or she is lonely forever if they leave.
What's the first attribute to look for in a person for a long-term relationship? My answer is strong self-esteem. In addition, be useful. Strong self-esteem and being useful are my answers to attract a person for a long-term relationship.
A Dear Abby advice column the second letter a reader ended a toxic relationship Sun Jul 26, 2020.
Update On A Past Blog
The crux of today's blog is self-esteem. Men and women with strong self-esteem attract the matching man and woman. No tricks. No manipulation. No intimidation. Strong men and women. Smart men and women. Useful men and women. I wrote a Self-Esteem Blog on Nov 14, 2018 self-evaluating a person's self-esteem.
There are two additional questions to ask before a couple gets married. I asked My Two Question Marriage Is He Or She My Spouse Till Death Do Us Part on Dec 1, 2019. They're "Do you trust your spouse to take of you if you're the weaker person?" and "Is the couple motivated to work hard on their marriage?". Strong self-esteem and usefulness are factors in answering the two questions.
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